My name is Nette5 and I have been a member of Steptalk for over 5 years. I am an avid reader on here to the point it's on my phone and I check constantly for new posts. I don't post because I have never wanted to put the horror of my life into words. My DH knows I'm on here, my kids know I'm on here and they just call it "your step-thing", and occasionally my DH says I'm addicted to Steptalk... I am.
I used to think I was reading on here to help myself realize that my life was relatively calm compared to others... Boy was I wrong! One day I was following Former's blog thinking: so glad it's not me... SHIT that IS me!! I'm now seeing more comparisons and realizing it might be time to let it all out. Anything to help myself get through these next couple of years.
A little back story to my life:
I met DH when he was trying to date my friend in Oct 1999. He got me a job where he worked, I got us fired (stupid man should NOT EVER take my smokes!!!), and by March 2000, we got together. Friend (J) told me she couldn't continue dating DH and was going to break it off, then DH kissed me and they were over. Yes, I lost my friend for a couple years because she would listen to her mother's lies, but now all she tells me is: He was meant to be with you and you with him!!! My friend is still my friend!
DH & BM1 were high school sweethearts. Married a year after HS, they had a verbal agreement that he would put her through college, she would put him through college, then they would start a family. DH's parents even offered to help pay for Birth Control. BM1 went off BC without telling DH so that she had SS right around the time she graduated college. By the time SS turned 1, DH came home from work one day (he worked out of town & came home on weekends, her choice) & found them gone, moved to her parent's. To this day, DH has no clue why she left the way she did.
BM2... In my point of view: took advantage of a man who was rebounding from losing his son and was struggling to survive. She saw he could reproduce, they started dating, she got him drunk one night, and BAM... SD 9 months later. DH and BM2 never got along well and one day he came home from work to a horrible repeat event: BM2 had taken SD and moved to her parent's while he was at work.
There was a CO for SS of EOWE and she was so stingy with visitation, that DH's parents went & got grandparent visitation so DH had 1st & 3rd, BM had 2nd & 4th, GP had 5th WE, family birthdays, & a week any time. No CO for SD because they were never married, and she claimed that SD wasn't DH's. He tried to see SD regularly, but when SD was about 8 months, BM2 refused to let DH have any visitation and he had no money or spirit left to fight...
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My name is Nette5 and I have
My name is Nette5 and I have been a member of Steptalk for over 5 years. I am an avid reader on here to the point it's on my phone and I check constantly for new posts. I don't post because I have never wanted to put the horror of my life into words. My DH knows I'm on here, my kids know I'm on here and they just call it "your step-thing", and occasionally my DH says I'm addicted to Steptalk... I am.
I used to think I was reading on here to help myself realize that my life was relatively calm compared to others... Boy was I wrong! One day I was following Former's blog thinking: so glad it's not me... SHIT that IS me!! I'm now seeing more comparisons and realizing it might be time to let it all out. Anything to help myself get through these next couple of years.
A little back story to my life:
I met DH when he was trying to date my friend in Oct 1999. He got me a job where he worked, I got us fired (stupid man should NOT EVER take my smokes!!!), and by March 2000, we got together. Friend (J) told me she couldn't continue dating DH and was going to break it off, then DH kissed me and they were over. Yes, I lost my friend for a couple years because she would listen to her mother's lies, but now all she tells me is: He was meant to be with you and you with him!!! My friend is still my friend!
DH & BM1 were high school sweethearts. Married a year after HS, they had a verbal agreement that he would put her through college, she would put him through college, then they would start a family. DH's parents even offered to help pay for Birth Control. BM1 went off BC without telling DH so that she had SS right around the time she graduated college. By the time SS turned 1, DH came home from work one day (he worked out of town & came home on weekends, her choice) & found them gone, moved to her parent's. To this day, DH has no clue why she left the way she did.
BM2... In my point of view: took advantage of a man who was rebounding from losing his son and was struggling to survive. She saw he could reproduce, they started dating, she got him drunk one night, and BAM... SD 9 months later. DH and BM2 never got along well and one day he came home from work to a horrible repeat event: BM2 had taken SD and moved to her parent's while he was at work.
There was a CO for SS of EOWE and she was so stingy with visitation, that DH's parents went & got grandparent visitation so DH had 1st & 3rd, BM had 2nd & 4th, GP had 5th WE, family birthdays, & a week any time. No CO for SD because they were never married, and she claimed that SD wasn't DH's. He tried to see SD regularly, but when SD was about 8 months, BM2 refused to let DH have any visitation and he had no money or spirit left to fight...
More to come!!! Time to get dinner on.