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My Skid's Spine is Made of Butter

NCMilGal's picture

I am disappointed in SD17.

For all that she has sworn that she's ready to go no-contact with (narcissistic) BM, it's obvious that BM rules her world.

With most things BM-related, I don't care any more. Once she gave custody to DH, she couldn't hurt him or SD17 on a daily basis. But here we go with Christmas.

SD17 wanted to go to her mom's for the holidays so she could see her friends, and see her paternal grandmother. (BM and MIL live in the same state about two hours apart) BM, being the non-parenting bitch she is, went behind our backs and pressured my frail 81 yr old MIL into saying she'd take SD17 AND her precious prince of a 10 yr old half brother (no blood relation to MIL) who is rambunctious and entitled and is way more than an elderly woman should be expected to deal with.

SD17 doesn't want this. MIL doesn't want this. DH doesn't want this, especially since MIL told him she doesn't feel up to dealing with the boy. (MIL is a cancer survivor, and is eighty freaking one) DH tried to reason with BM. It ended with him getting cussed out and hung up on.

DH called MIL today. She again expressed reservations, and told DH that her family plans (MIL has 7 kids) meant she couldn't see SD17 until after Christmas. DH called SD17, who told him that BM planned to dump her kids on MIL tomorrow.

DH told SD17 to get everybody on the line and get everything straightened out. SD17 whined and cried and asked DH to do it, because she's scared of her mother.

Who wants to take bets that SD17 AND her brat brother will end up at my frail MIL's house tomorrow?

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oneoffour's picture

Well a 17 yr old laying it out to her mother what she will and will not do is asking a little too much. DH needs to tell his ex that if he hears that the kids are left with his mother tomorrow she will be reported to CPS for abandoning them. At Christmas. With an 81 yr old frail old lady.

onebanana's picture

SD is 17. She can't, and shouldn't be expected to get anyone or anything straightened out except herself. Her mother is NOT her problem, her brother is NOT her problem. You can't expect her to take that on herself.