Poor hubby, his mother did not have cancer but apparently did have surgery to repair more than one hernia caused by her cancer surgery last year and how did DH find out about this? On FB of all places. Apparently talking to his mother at Christmas was not good enough and she decided to "punish" him by not telling him about her surgery but instead her sister posting it publicly on FB. I have them all blocked (MIL and all her sisters) but DH does not, last night he was shocked to see a post from his Aunt about how thankfully they are that MIL pulled through the surgery and how scary it was because they found a blood clot in her lung. He feels terrible and has no idea how or if he should reach out to his mother now. I have never seen a more passive aggressive family. He knows in his heart that his Aunts post is on FB just for him, a nice jab in the side. The Aunts went back and forth about how they need to spend as much time as possible with her just in case, yup, directed at DH.

What kind of mother doesn't call her only son to tell him that she is having surgery?? It just boggles my mind...So far he is ignoring his Aunts posts and has not called his mothers home because he does not want to talk to his stepdad after the fiasco at Christmas. My only comments to him were that perhaps his mother wanted to keep this surgery private and/or she didn't feel it was that serious but I know he is being punished by her, in her mind if you don't call me enough, i won't call you when something serious comes up. She did this once before and told us "oh before you hear it from someone else....." In my family we tell family serious matters first, not last.

Crazy making people.......