My issue is how he had the nerve to do all this and not discuss it with you first. I wouldn't tolerate this nonsense and he's going to know it. He's not being completely honest with you in my opinion and if he can't communicate the real reason behind all these locked doors.....it's a problem.

Whelp.. looks like you just got out of skid and DH duties.. they can wash their own clothes.. put their own things away..

If you need to clear their things from a common area.. then just have a big tub.. dump everything that doesn't belong in the common rooms in there.. they can sort through and find their stuff if they want it.

I would be "dMned" if I would allow someone to lock me out of a space that I own.. in my own home.  Kids have ZERO rights to privacy really.. 

BUT, I suspect there have been issues with people taking stuff not theres.  Now, it can be relatively benign, like borrowing something, but I think you need to talk to him, and tell him in the future he needs to talk to you.   Unless of course, he spoke to you and you pooh-poohed his complaints.  Many stepmoms complain about stepkids taking things and are advised to lock doors.

You will have to work out what to do re laundry.  It would REALLY bother me if DH would not give me a key.

Wait, you don't have a key? Oh hell no. You are an adult in the home. 

AND, it's a huge safety hazard to have kids locking their doors and you don't have a key. 

No effing way. In no other situation would it be okay for someone to lock a homeowner out of a room of their home. 

The 19 year old is an adult and has the option to move out or stay at moms fulltime if he has a problem with you.

The exceptions to obvious rules that people make for skids is mindblowing to me.

I understand the locked doors if there is a history of things being taken.  We had to lock my BSs door because the SSs would take his things.  We got to the point of going through bags before they left each time.    However if that isn’t the case then this is ridiculous.

And why does your DH lock his closet?  That is shady in itself.  What does he have to hide?   

It would be a cold day in hell I would do anything for him or his kids.  And you can bet I would lock up something else or hubby may be wanting to get Into....

The minute your 'D'H put a lock on HIS closet is the minute I'd be questioning my marriage. If this was truly an issue, he would have made/given YOU a copy of all keys before he installed the locks. 

Children should not have locked doors. Children invading the space/property of others is due to crap parenting and no consequences. 

on closet doors in our bedroom, DSs bedroom, and OSSs bedroom since YSS (and OSS) had a problem keeping their mitts off other people's stuff. And DH has a problem keeping his hands off stuff and a problem telling his kids to keep their hands off stuff.

The kids are all mostly out of the house but I still use the lock on my closet and still keep DSs closet locked. I have been taught several times that DH has no boundaries when it comes to my things so I need a straightforward one for him.

Kids do not have privacy period. They dont. Not in our house.

Its very shifty when anyone pulls telling you 'after the fact" as their GO to behavior.

BM is like that...

You know,  Act First, say you didnt know OR it was a mistake OR it was a bad 'choice"... later.

barf. what ever A**H****

After my oldest SD went through the far depths our dresser and proceeded to relate back to BM the contents of handwritten notes (notes that I had hidden very well) between DH and I, I started locking our bedroom whenever we leave either SD alone at home. I felt like I was well within my rights to do that, and DH agreed.

That being said, what your DH has done is pretty messed up and I would be furious. I guess if he wants to lock the the kid’s rooms, I would tell him that it’s fine, but anything you find “out” that needs to be put away will be thrown away if you can’t get into the bedroom. And the kids can start doing their own laundry. As for him locking his closet and not giving you a key? I wouldn’t stand for that for a second. Is he hiding something? I just can’t wrap my head around why anyone would do that to their spouse. 

I'd tell DH that I will not be doing any cleaning up, laundry or anything for his kids going forward.  And I would tell him that I'm looking forward to the extravagant Christmas present he's hiding in his closet for me. Because what other reason could he have for locking his closet?

Take his closet door off at the hinges and find out what he doesn't want you to see - then decide what to do.

I am really hoping that your husband and his kids are hiding amazing (possibly large) christmas present in their room/closet for you and your boys.....but that may be too optimistic. 

Is your husband normally a person who gets paranoid? Could his mental health be affecting him? Is he acting strangely in any other capacities?

Is this coming from the step kids mother?? Is she coming up with nonesense and pestering your husband to do this?

I would agree with letting them all deal with laundry/tidying if you do not have access to their rooms/closet...it is not like you could do it anyway. I would also try to dig a little deeper with my husband to see if I could find out what the real issue is before taking further direct action. Once a problem is identified then a solution can be worked on, without that you just have an escalating war within the household of pettiness. If he refuses to discuss the issue further then you can decide what you want to do. Ultimately if he has lost trust in you then that sounds pretty damaging (potentially fatal) to your marriage in my opinion. 

So I will keep my fingers crossed for amazing christmas presents for you all!

DH and I have a locking door to our bedroom, but we have only locked it when we are IN there. I would have no hesitation in locking it otherwise if we had an issue with skids taking things from there, but we didn't.  After we made the rules very clear to the SDs when we moved in.

I actually removed the locks from the SDs rooms, added one on to the office door.  After a while, I added locking cabinets in the laundry room because tools and other house repair things were disappearing...that stopped that. I would not have locked my husband out of my things or he vice-versa.  And as for the locks, he had fair warning and/or we agreed on the plan. 

I would not have locked him out of entire rooms w/out his agreement.  And the OPs skids/kids are young.  There's something else going on...

NOT COOL. If I'm hiding a gift for my wife it's in my gun safe or my locked cabinet at work. 

Yeah, take off that door cuz he's hiding something. 

For whatever reason it appears as if you & yours are the enemy.

We have locks in the house. We have a master bedroom lock WHEN we are in it since SGD-16 has no sense of boundaries. Adding her brothers for a visit caused locks to be installed on the office door.  Knives are confiscated & locked down before visitation. That's all kinda normal in the efft-up step world we live in.  I have full knowledge & access to everything.

It sounds as if you & your children are in the cold. Locked out within your own home. There is likely a huge backstory & lots of justification on both sides. Don't sweat it. No laundry. No cooking. No cleaning.  Pile it up in the hallway. Have fun with it.

If you are now adversarial roommates, accept your 30 day notice.  Take a hint. Plan accordingly.

ETA:  I was rather harsh when I posted & I'm sorry if I caught you unawares. I'd like to come up with a good explanation for DH's sudden behavior. I'm stumped, tbh. Perhaps locking his closet was the main intent & the other is just smokescreen.

I'm sorry that you're living with this. I would be beyond hurt & packing my bags.

Well, I'm kind of petty and think I'd probably add a second lock to all of the first ones ...

The way I see it, you both live there, therefore you should both have the same access to all areas of your home.

First, NO ONE in a house I PAY FOR is getting a locking door that I don't have a key to. Not happening, especially with minors in the house. If your DH wants everyone to have locking doors, then he better be giving you a master key to get into every single one of them.

I'll echo everyone else that you're no longer responsible for your DH's or SKs' stufd. That's ALL on them now. I like the tub idea, or piling everything on DH's side of the bed (or right in front of his closet door).

And even IF he gives you a master key, he is now STILL responsible for everything.

"DH, you made the unilateral decision without talking to me, your equal partner, an ADULT who helps maintain and pay for our MUTUAL home, to put locks on the doors and not give me an explanation or a key. So, I've made the unilateral decision to not do for you or the SKs anymore. I will not play games with you, and this is your only warning. You decide to do something stupid like this again, and I'll find a new place that you will never have a key to. This was an extremely disrespectful and hurtful move on your part, and I won't play games. You turned our home into living quarters, and if you want things to be that separated, then you can take care of yours while I take care of mine. I'm not having this."