So my BD14 moved in with us on Friday. I am SO happy and excited! Tonight SD9 followed BD14 around like a lost puppy but BD didn't seem to mind and actually engaged SD in some activities that they did together so I'm going to enjoy it while it lasts.

Now I'm going to get petty for a minute. I KNOW that I'm being petty here but somehow I still can't help myself...

I go to BM's facebook Sunday night on accident because I simply clicked the wrong link and low and behold... she has a new last name! At first I'm thinking nah, she didn't do it. So I IM BM's oldest daughter who is 17 (she's the one who set DH and I up on a date to go out the very first time) and I ask, "Did your mom get married?" She tells me she's not sure and asked why I was asking so I explained to her. She told me to hang on a sec while she contacts her mom. When she came back, sure enough her mother got married. She's upset because she found out via facebook (she was AT mine and DH's wedding and he's not even her biodad). SD9 spent the weekend with her grandmother and so when we got her up for school I asked her "Honey, did you talk to your mommy this weekend?" She gets all excited and says, "Yes, I talked to her on Friday and I forgot to tell you when I got home but guess what?" I already KNOW what's coming but she says, "Mommy and (now Sdad) got married on Friday!" I responded with "How exciting!!!" and then walk into the bedroom where DH is sitting on the bed.

Here's where the pettiness on MY part comes in... I'M the one who's PISSED! I am OUTRAGED and I am actually DEFENSIVE on behalf of DH. Why? Because this SLUT came into DH's life while he was 16 years old and she was SUPPOSED to be a grown woman of 26. She met him on the internet and KNEW he had low self esteem and she found out he was a virgin and she INSISTED that SHE should be his first. So she comes here and gets a hotel room and calls him there and he said the first thing she DID was have sex with him and then she moves in with he and his mom and brings her two daughter's from two different dad's with her and just moves right in and SNATCHES DH's teen years from him in one fell swoop. Two years later she has his baby and she STILL hasn't bothered to divorce her husband, still carries HIS last name yet she wears an engagement ring that DH gave her and she CLAIMS to be engaged although SHE'S MARRIED TO ANOTHER MAN... 4 years after THAT they move to a different place and have different jobs. She plays WoW and starts to fool around with other men behind his back. He leaves her and takes his daughter... moves back home because she has declared that she wants one of her past loves back and she thinks they're going to give it another try. When THAT doesn't work out, who do you think she RAN to? So he takes her back and this goes on again and again for another THREE years until FINALLY he says no more. He can't do it anymore. TEN years of his life he gave to this bitch and she never even divorced her husband. Now she's been with THIS guy for 2 years and she married HIM???

Not to mention, she SUCKS at being a mom. I know I shouldn't say that, I know I shouldn't feel this way but she let her 17 year old daughter move out KNOWING she has an eating disorder (she's anorexic AND balemic) without getting her ANY help for it and she has almost nothing to do with SD9, doesn't provide SHIT for her and now she's goes and gets married without even telling anybody???

I'm sorry, I know I should let this go. It's toxic for me to harbor these feelings and so the promise I made myself was that I am going to just let it out all here and then I'm DONE with it. Forever. I KNOW all of this only reflects badly upon HER. At least SD9 isn't with HER. Because did I mention that she lives in PURE FILTH? She allows her dogs (she has 4 of them) to poop and pee everywhere. She doesn't clean house and she was storing her garbage in her garage because she couldn't afford to pay her trash bill even though she went out and bought a huge TV, new furniture, new truck, new house, and she keeps her WoW account payed.

I'm done, deflated... it's out and I honestly DO feel better. I just have to remind myself that I don't HAVE to like this woman. No, I just have to raise her daughter. It's not like SHE will ever try to help. I don't think she even knows HOW to raise a child.