I am to the point where I'm starting to think life would just be easier if I lived on my own.

H and I went to visit my grandma last night and I invited SD9 to come along. She enthusiastically said she wanted to go. Next thing I knew SD9 called from her grandmother's and said she wanted to stay there instead. H okay'd it and we left. When we returned it was to find out that SD9's BM called to talk to SD9 while we were gone and BM made a comment to MIL that she thinks SD9 is at grandma's too often. What does the b*&^h expect??? She only calls MAYBE twice a week and that's a BIG maybe and it so happens that the last few weeks she chose to call while SD9 was at her gma's. Not to mention I think Gma has been butting her nose in where it doesn't belong since SD9 has come home from her mom's for the summer. She is CONSTANTLY wanting SD9 to be over at her apartment and I talked to H about it and he made rules about SD9 spending time at her Gma's but they haven't gone into affect so far that I have seen.

Bottom line, I'm about sick of the entire situation. I'm sick of MIL and I'm sick of a BM that CHOSE to move 2 states away and LEAVE her daughter with H only to nitpick about crap that she can't POSSIBLY know anything about. She sent her own daughter a CARD for her birthday and she pays $0.00 in child support. She sees her daughter for 1 week during Christmas and 3 months during the summer and that's IT. A PATHETIC card for her birthday!!! H and I have been arguing ALL day and our anniversary is 5 days away. I'm miserable and I'm sure H can't be anymore happy than I am.

I THINK the biggest issue is this... H was an only child of a single mother. H is too passive when it comes to his mother. H got with XGF when he was 16 and SHE was 26 so H was essentially controlled by XGF. Since H has gotten together with me he has begun to stick up for himself when it comes to XGF and his mother and they do not like it. MIL SYMPATHIZES with H's XGF although SHE was the one who got on an online video game (she says it's a better dating site than eharmony) and left my H off and on for TWO years while she would run from state to state (even Canada) to be with other man until H FINALLY got fed up with her crap and booted her the hell out. Yet his own MOTHER sympathizes with HER???

I don't get it. Seriously. I don't get it and I'm to the point that I don't even WANT to. I have my OWN battles and mistakes to overcome and I'm sick and tired of dealing with TWO women that are... I don't even know what fits here anymore. I KNOW the XGF is pissed because her fallback got married and NOW whatever will she DO when she gets sick and tired of the CURRENT man. She has tried SO hard to cause conflict between H and I when she comes here. She tries to tell him things that she supposedly knows about me that he doesn't when I don't even KNOW her. I know who she is and what my H has told me and that's IT.

Arrrrrrgh, I'm just SO angry.

And yes this is the very same MIL that wants me to buy her a brand new car, a house and give her some money to boot. Yet my H tries to explain away her behavior by saying that he doesn't think she meant it the way she came across!!! WTF? Really? Do I seem stupid? Why is it SO clear to me what is going on and NOT to HIM?