First off I don't want this blog to seem like I'm hating on my Ss or anything like that, I'm venting more so because of how messed up things are and how Dh hasn't handled it at all. I don't blame Ss at all, it's just a hard situation and I'm frustrated.

Anyway, when Dh and I started dating I had zero knowledge of how custody/visitation, child supp and basically step life in general worked, so everything I know I've taught myself by doing research on my own and with Dh. Well in the beginning Dh made it seem like his CS was based off the time he spent w/ Ss, which is every weekend. I thought it was a little much at first but after things got serious and we eventually moved in together and got married I didn't care too much because I know seeing his son every weekend makes him happy but I also didn't mind because I was under the impression that it kept his child supp down. Well last week I was looking at some child supp calculators to see what Dh child supp may change to because he is going to get a promotion, and low and behold I came to find that Dh's CS ISN'T based on his time w/ Ss but that he pays the max amount as though he is seeing ss every other weekend. I was pretty upset. I mentioned it to Dh and he was like "oooh oh yeah, I remember now they don't consider my time w/ SS." which P'd me off even more because I feel like he lied to me. It wouldn't be a big deal to me but he insists we share finances and I'm fine with it but something like that is important to know, or at least i think so.

Now I have to mention I could care less that Ss is with us every weekend, I mean I would like a break every now and then but whatever, I'm already used to it. What does bothers me, and I've written about it here before, is that we are driving to BFN every single weekend wasting gas and Bm refuses to meet Dh ever unless she's out and then she'll ask to meet Dh but only to wherever she is or where she's going. I wigged out on Dh after I found out and told him he needs to get off his a$$ and get in court to get some type of arrangement made where she picks Ss up or meets Dh at a half way point. I'm so sick of dh letting this chick take advantage.Yes Dh has come a long way from the days when she'd say jump and his only response was how high but that's not the point. She seems to have this attitude that Ss is the freaking 2nd coming of christ and Dh should be kissing her feet for letting him get him every weekend. It also doesn't help that Ss has been acting so entitled lately. Just this weekend he's started to go thru Dd's toys to see if anything belongs to him and will go hide it away in his room.Or if she's playing with something that is his, he'll go take it away from her and throw it on the other side of the couch or wherever, not because he wants to play with it but just so that she doesn't play with it. As it is I don't like dealing w/ stingy kids but to go and take things from my daughter that I bought with my money for him royally pisses me off. I get that he's a kid but added to everything goin on, let's just say I had a lot of resentment this weekend.

I'm just beyond bugged and I feel like an idiot for not putting 2 and 2 together sooner about how muchs he's paying, and the fact that we have Ss more than he gets credit for and that we do SO much driving and just... just everything. I treat Ss like gold, dh treats his son like gold and not that there needs to be gratitude because we do what's right but it's infuriating. Dh needs to stop slacking and get this corrected because I can feel resentment growing and I know that's not good for our marriage. :/