I’m so sick and tired of my husband letting his brat daughter act like she owns this house. She is 10 years old and can’t do anything  but stay on her phone. I’ve been patient with her. Don’t get me wrong. I love her. She can really be an angel when she wants something. Other than that she is a devil. As a stepmom I try hard to love and treat her the same I would if she was my actual kid but this kid is simply just so rebellious that she thinks I’m going to let her do what ever because she cried about it. My husband and his ex’s parenting skills obviously isn’t raising this kid right. 

I simply can not get this girl to do her own chores such as washing her own plate or folding her own laundry. Even as simple as asking her to take a god damn shower or brush her teeth. I feel like I always have to give her a god damn essay for everything I ask her to do. My husband doesn’t see it as a problem and he lets her disrespect me. He sits there ignoring when he hears her screaming back at me for telling  her she needs to go shower. And when she gets upset about it. He babies her and says it’s my fault for making her do things she really is not capable of doing. What is so hard about having a 10 year old do her own dishes or take a shower? He does not discipline her what so ever. He says she is too small to understand routines. But she has cousins way younger than her doing their own chores  she is perfectly capable of these simple tasks  

When I moved in. My husband would let her stay up until 2-3 am on her phone. Even on school nights. That meant it was a hassle getting her out of bed for school the next day. I got tired of it and made up a routine. She simply has all the time she wants on her phone until 9. She needs to shower and be in bed by 10. She follows it. Until she found out her dad didn’t care about the routine. So she went straight back to her old habits. So my husband and I both agreed we needed to limit her phone time. Therefore I created a chores chart for her. There’s 5 things to do each day and if she can get 3 stickers per day she earns 10 extra minutes on her phone. That didn’t work out. So now she simply just gets 2 hours on her phone. 

It’s weird that she tends to only rebel me when her dad is home. If he is at work I can get her to do her own laundry or brush her teeth. But the moment he gets home. She knows he will let her do what ever so she rebels me. And he lets her. She has beautiful long hair in which she is lazy to take care of. So She always asks me to comb it. But when I do she cries out in pain as if I’m hurting her and asks her dad to do it. If I do something as simple as bumping her shoulder as I walk by, she cries as if I hit her hard. And it makes my husband think I do. Worst of all my mother in law and sister in laws always make it seem like in hurting his daughter or not loving her. Everytime they are over they overfeed her and say things like, “ oh you lost so much weight! Did they not feed you?” Or “come here let me take you out cause I know people here won’t allow it” Come on! The reason why I don’t let us go eat out much is because her doctor simply says she is getting close the being overweight. So I control her diet. Am I so wrong for caring for her health? I’m sick and tired of her crap and the fact that my husband blames me for her attitude. It’s not my fault your kid is a spoiled brat. He says I shouldn’t put too many rules on her and let her mom deal with her attitude. So then I stopped with everything I did. But then her mom complained that i didn’t love her daughter enough to care for her. What the hell and I doing wrong here?