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Submitted by morethanibargai... on Wed, 04/08/2015 - 3:12pm

K I need some advice here. I need to know if this is just me being a terrible bitch or if other SMs are like this.
I just generally am not a huge fan of SD14. A) I don't like teenagers in general Dirol Shes been super shitty to SO and me over the past couple years and theres other reasons. Generally that shes just super annoying and clingy.
I just have no desire to talk to her, I don't show much interest in her. I don't dote over her, I don't ask her questions about herself. Shes an attention whore so shes constantly begging for any kind of attention she can get. If you ask her a question about herself she will run with it and talk and talk and talk and not stop.
I'm just not interested. I don't wanna!
We haven't seen much of her lately but since we told her im pregnant she wants to come over like all the time. Which is fine, I have no issue with her coming over to spend time with SO. I just don't feel like I need to be all that involved.
She told SO today that she is being bullied at school, so he asked me to be extra receptive to her tomorrow when she comes over. Like to ask her questions about herself and be interested in her. Make a big deal about her.
I don't want to. Is that mean? Am I just being a huge bitch?? I think the answer is yes but I'm not really sure how to change it.
I'm not one of those people who can fake liking someone or can fake being nice. If I don't like you, you are sure to know it.

HELP! How do I fake it? How do I pretend to show interest in this kid that I really have no interest in.

Shes not the kind of kid that I can just be nice to one day. If I show any interest in her at all then we are immediately best friends and she will never leave me alone for as long as I live.

Any and all advice is welcome. Just don't attack me and say how horrible I am. I know it. I know its mean to not want to show interest in this kid. I'm more looking for advice on how to fake it lol.

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Submitted by morethanibargai... on Wed, 04/08/2015 - 3:23pm

Well that was kind of my thought. It always seems that whenever she is going to be coming to our house is when shes getting "bullied". Or when we are having dinner she mentions that shes being bullied but that the school isn't doing anything about it, so I find it a little hard to believe sometimes. Could just be for attention.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Wed, 04/08/2015 - 3:24pm

That is when I put up my hand and say "STOP! H just STOP! You cannot force us into a relationship. It's not going to happen at this point. Maybe later but not now. Give her all the attention you feel is necessary but you need to stop forcing this relationship on both of us. You are making things worse, not better. I will be kind, I will be polite but STOP telling me how to behave around your kid."

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 04/08/2015 - 3:26pm

I feel the same way about my SD16. I have absolutely ZERO interest in her or anything that she does. She hates school because everyone there sucks. I have found that it's probably not those kids but rather her shitty attitude. She is also an attention whore. Daddy, daddy, daddy...drives me up a wall! DH told me to ask her about the cartoons that she draws and she could explain in all to me. I said, "Ummm No thanks!" What I meant was I would rather stick a rusty fork in my ear. I can't even pretend to be interested in the things that she says because I find I want to roll my eyes so hard they would slam into the back of my skull!

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Submitted by morethanibargai... on Wed, 04/08/2015 - 3:29pm

So what do you tell DH about it? How does he feel about you not being interested in her?

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Submitted by EvilAngel on Wed, 04/08/2015 - 3:47pm

When I said that about the cartoons, he said "So are you listening to me when I talk about things you aren't interested in?" I said, "No...haven't you noticed I usually stop you? And it's not so much I am not interested. You talk about things that I just don't understand sometimes." (He builds homes and he will start talking about how something works and while I may or may not be interested, I don't always know what he is talking about.) I have told him over and over...I am NOT INTO cartoons and haven't been since I was 10 maybe? I can't pretend that I like her drawings. Sure I will say they are good or whatever if she asks but I am not going to oh and ah over them and pretend that I think she is the next Picasso. She's weird anyway and he knows that. She's also not very personable and he knows that too. He doesn't give me a hard time about not being interested in her because he knows that if I have to pretend I will more than likely just be bitchy to her. It wouldn't be my intention but it would happen.