I know I’ve been a little silly about poking fun at Mother Russia (BM) over the last few months on this site… I’ve made fun of her goofy tattoo… her tummy tucks… her love of awful techno music… but truth be told, she’s not a bad person. She’s actually a very lonely and scared person. And not that I’d necessarily be “friends” with her if we weren’t locked in this co-parenting relationship but we are “friendly”… and I know from daily reading here that it could be a whole lot worse.

Just got a frantic call from her today (she’s been away on business but I have the kids call her every day and we end up talking a bit) apparently she’s been having horrendous headaches for the last few weeks (blamed it on a funky chiropractic adjustment for a while) and finally just went to the ER. They ran some scans and found a “cyst” in her brain. Now… I’m getting this information secondhand from a scared, away from home Russian immigrant, so I calmed her down enough to try to understand what they told her and asked “Are you sure they said “cyst” and not… “Tumor”..? and she said “OH NO! Is not the “bad thing”. But they still want her to fly home and have more tests… and that scares the hell out of me.

This poor woman is all alone in the world except for her kids, her ex husband and his new wife. No family… no friends. We’re it.

What do I do..?
Do I offer to help if she needs care..? Do I just stand back and hope for the best..? When she had her plastic surgeries I went to her house and cleaned and helped her with bandages until she could function, but in a life threatening situation do I volunteer care or is that overstepping..? This is all crazy, worried speculation at the moment, but I really am worried about what to do… “if”?

Kind of a weird request folks… but could you say a prayer for our BM?
Thanks.