Facebook hate / going away party update
As a recap, my ex's girlfriend posted very nasty things about me on my child's Facebook page, and my child didn't want the girlfriend or dad at their grad/going away party. I sent ex an email with screenshots of the posts and a note that because of these actions, his gf wasn't welcome in my home for any reason, but especially the party. He was welcome, but not her.
Well, it's been a very dramatic few weeks. My ex lost his shit over the email. Things like "you do not get to tell me who I can have around our kids" and "your a old model who can't handle that I have a new model in my bed every night"
Now, this is not at all like my ex. I'm assuming some of it was his gf. He started blowing up my child's phone, both of them. He started with oldest child,then when that didn't produce the results he wanted, moved to younger child.
I'll say here, we don't go my the court order. It states he gets the kids all summer, with me having then every other weekend. We haven't done that in years because he moved several hours away. Younger child is 17, has a job and obviously has to be here to do said job.
Ex stayed demanding that youngest child quit the job and "follow the court order" and go to his house for the remainder of the summer. Same with oldest. He told oldest "you are in violation of a legal order. Because your an adult, you can be prosecuted for this" LOL
I finally sent him a cease and desist letter telling him I'd file in court if he didn't stop the harassment. So then, they both show up at the party. Thankfully, we were in the back of the house for the pool party and I asked some police officer friends to hand or at the front. They kept things from turning into a scene, but I had to get a restraining order for me and youngest on Monday and oldest got one as well.
I'm so sad for my kids, but just shocked by this nonsense. After all this, my husband's ex (who was at the party) thanked my husband and I for being a normal ex and stepmom. LOL
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Why do past partners think
Why do past partners think that exes give a crap who they are sleeping with. Wow, just childish on his part.
His gf sounds like a true high drama nutball. You handled it greatly on that you are protecting yourself and your children from that crazy. I would make sure to have her blocked from all your kids facebooks, and their father as well. If he objects then I would tell him that you don't want anyone embarrassing his kids with their drama.
My ex is not on Facebook, and
My ex is not on Facebook, and his girlfriend has never been "friended" by any of us. But, she is now blocked and we deleted and blocked the cousin whose account she used on my child's page.
She is a complete nutball. It amazes me the immaturity.
How old is oldest child? If
How old is oldest child? If that kid is over 18, he/she doesn't fall under the jurisdiction of the court, and therefore, is no longer subject to the parenting plan.
And, while, technically, younger child should be going to dad's all summer because that is what is in the parenting plan, it wouldn't be hard for said child to make an argument to be allowed to stay at your house so he/she can work.
The minute you and EX stopped following the parenting plan as written is the minute you should have gone to court to modify it.
The "new model" sounds absolutely certifiable.
Oldest child is 18 and about
Oldest child is 18 and about to head to college. Youngest child is 17. We've never needed to go back to Court because we have always (minus the first year of so post-divorce) worked things out between us. When he moved, the kids pretty much stopped the summers with him due to activities and extracurriculars here. I have years of emails between the two of us working out the scheduling issues. So, he's welcome to take me to court. He will lose.
The girlfriend is most definitely on the crazy train, which I don't care about as long as she leaves me and my kids alone.
Of course that's the only
Of course that's the only reason he's pushing it. School starts in less than two weeks. LOL
Now he's pushed my kids so that I doubt either of them will go to his home again. I could file in court to change the Court Order, but at this point it's not worth it. If he wants to contest it and file for contempt, he's welcome to. At that point I'll file for an amendment to the Order.
I just learned this morning that Youngest blocked his dad from his phone last night because he and his girlfriend wouldn't quit calling and texting. That's a violation of the restraining order, so I guess I'm going to have to address that now.
Just sad.
Your ex is an asshole and
Your ex is an asshole and should be furious at his GF for saying those things to his daughter on FB. He may not give a shit what she says or thinks about you, but to say those things to his kid is a bit different. Childish, classless, and just wrong.
My SD is 24 and out of respect for the fact that she is my husband's daughter, I would never tell her that her mother is a selfish bitch and a slut/whore.
And you most certainly can say who you have over to your house, which is not the same thing as telling him who he can or can't have around your kids.
Does gf intercept his emails
Does gf intercept his emails and so forth? It kind of sounds like it was ALL her and even possible he showed up at the party totally clueless as to all the drama?
In any case, gf sounds like a borderline personality disorder. Everything has got to be about her. Isolate the target. So she's running off his children and all that comes attached to them.
He was at least knowledgeable
He was at least knowledgeable of the email. He left some pretty nasty emails as well.
One child is still a minor.
One child is still a minor. The other child just turned 18 and graduated High School. I didn't have to ask my kids to block her because they never accepted her (repeated) friend requests. Their dad does not have a Facebook page. His girlfriend used my kids cousin's facebook page to post her vile accusations against me. That account was immediately blocked (by my child).
I honestly doubt that Dad will have separate events with my kids as long as he's with his current girlfriend. My kids want nothing to do with either of them right now, and the restraining order actually prevents it.