Hi, I am so thankful I found this website. I feel like I'm losing my mind. I married a wonderful man, we have one baby girl together who is 2 years old. She is our world , well until every other Friday starting 4pm. This is when my world changes. My family is out of place and I am instantly pissed. I began to get pissed on Wednesdays when the ex wife confirms we will be getting his 3 children for the weekend. Just seeing her text makes my blood boil. I feel like a horrible person. I can't stand my 2 step sons. They drive me crazy , I love my SD, she is a wonderful child, but her bm has scared her from living or doing anything.
Let me tell you about the ex, she is a control freak who wants me to bend to her requests from foods that I buy to which door locks I need to place upon the inside of my doors in my home, to the amount of smoking I can do while her children are here. Mind you I don't smoke in my house. She the ex has also commented about the amount of wine in my fridge.my SD is the world's most honest person.

We just got a new home and have lived here for about a month and the ex is refusing to let the children come ( I'm perfectly ok with that) if we don't build a fence all the way around our land , one we are renting , 2 we are renting 30 acers , I'm not rich , I can't afford to fence off that much land. And she has also stated we need better fire detector. It's literally no matter what we do its never good enough.

I go out of my way every Thursday, to go shopping for her children. I buy all the special foods they have to have. The 7 year old won't eat anything besides soup, pancakes, crackers, juice , or chocolate, AL items must be a special brand or he will literally starve him self. He is 7 years old and weighs 38 pounds, I tell his BM that he is very under weight and needs to eat better and she tells me he eats just fine. I'm sorry by my daughter out eats him and his brother. His brother is 4 and does not speak , will not respond to anything I say or do. The 7 year old will not either.

We had a wonderful Christmas but these kids are such brats that not one time did they thank anyone for a single gift, the 7 year old said , " is that all I get ?" This child had over 30 packages from my family for Christmas, his father and I have only been with each other 2 years. I told my family don't get them much they will just break it.

Anyways that's the truth , within minutes of receiving 50.00 monster trucks the trucks were torn into parts on the living room floor , talk about embarrassing, we are not rich or wealthy at all.

The 4 year old won't speak , won't reply, won't acknowledge anyone. He bites my daughter , bites his sister, screams a language only he understands. The 13 year old is a very good kid , she helps with her sister , helps with the boys, but has some serious mental issues. She is the biggest snitch ever. Anything her dad and I talk about or do, she goes home and tells her bm. This leading to me having to walk on egg shells while she is around me. She is never happy. I know she is 13 and she is emotional anyways. Like I said earlier we just got a new home , I bought this child a brand new bed, new bedding, new TV for her room , the colors she wanted , everything. But it wasn't good enough and she wanted to sleep on the couch are you kidding me ? On the couch , I bought her all new things cause she never has had anything new. And she wanted to sleep on the couch? Not one time gave I heard a thank you. Just complaints about how it's not good enough.

These children drive me to a level of hate and angry I never knew I had. I hate seeing them get out of the car , I hate the million texts that go one between Thier bm and the bf over the 3 days they are here most text are , did they eat, did you bathe them , did they poop , just bs,and my husband does not reply. Which I'm thankful for he does have my back. But it's to the point with both of us. We are over the drama , disrespect and stress of having the children. My husband and I do not fight or biker, unless it's every other Friday. His kids are brats and he knows it,his ex is crazy and drives us crazy. We have tried everything to please them , make them happy and no matter what it's wrong. We just want to walk away from the ex and all her crap. Wow I feel so much better just writing this and knowing I'm not alone.