Last week was pay week for both SO and I. I get paid on the 1st and 15th of every month, he gets paid every Friday.

I manage all of our money-like down to the last dime.

I had to make a cash withdrawl the other day and pay some bills. I took out enough to cover support for SD6 since she and her mother live around the corner from BD's daycare and SO was swamped all weekend with the house, so I offered to drop it off if they were home to save him the extra trip (SD6 has every minute of her days programmed-so he visits her during the week because weekends are jam packed-in the spring he was able to go to her T-ball games and will go to whatever stuff he can spectator wise).

BM2-SD's mother was very happy about this as she usually has to wait for SO to drop it off on Monday or Thursday, plus two weeks at once is probably fun I'd imagine.

I asked her if she wanted it in the mailbox (I've dropped it off before and she puts the receipt right in). She said no, her and SD were home and SD would like to see BD2.

SD has a very limited world. Just as we moved out of our last house, she began asking SO and BM2 to come over to visit. We all discussed it and decided that once our reno was finished we could cross that bridge. Well, the reno has dragged on for way longer than expected and when SO goes to visit SD he doesn't take SS or BD because he has such limited time to spend with SD and wants to focus on her. Which is totally fine-I get it. But they're all starting to ask about each other.

Needless to say, it was very nice to see SD6 who I've met once in passing. It was even nicer that my BD got to see her sister, who she knows from pictures but doesn't know so much in person.

I'm excited for this next chapter for all of them. BM2 and I had a long phone chat afterwards. I think that SO and BM2 need to work on their relationship as SD6's parents. BM2 still harbors a lot of resentment for SO, which in my opinion is a little displaced. She didn't want to move out of her parents house, she didn't want to quit drinking and she didn't really do anything to make him feel like he was anything more to her than the guy who lives in her parents basement that fills the "Daddy" shoes for BD6.

I gently explained this to her. She has since, quit drinking. Their relationship has improved some, but she still has her mother in the middle of it-SO has to make plans with BM2's mom to see SD6. The only thing BM2 talks to SO about is child support and insurance. They co-exist just fine at T-ball games and BM2 and I have been pretty cool with one another-occasionally the entitlement gets on my nerves. SO is not a bank who you spring $150 activity fees on at the last minute. If we knew ahead of time or were consulted about our financial abilities to purchase extra-curriculars before SD was told she could do something, that would be different.

She seems to have a good amount of introspection these days. We made plans for them to get coffee one day next week. She asked if I would come and I told her that this is something they need to do and I can't really be involved with facilitating it anymore than I have, but if she thought it would be helpful, I suggested a counselor which they're both agreeable to.

**Edit**
SO is a recovering alcoholic. He has not touched alcohol in 7 years when he went to rehab for alcohol and heroin addiction. So her nightly drinking was a huge problem for him.