Was I comfortable with this, no. Did it matter what I thought... of course not! over the last couple of years especially around mother's day...and some other times when she would get pissed off over nothing.. BM2 would leave me shitty messages and of course add in there "You are NOT their mom, I am their mother"

It's worse when she says it to the kids, confusing much!! If you didn't want them to call me mom, you shouldn't have been encouraging it since they were 4 and 5yo. Then you showed them how much of a shitty person you still were and they call you by your first name. Of course that's my fault too, I have them brainwashed.

Then I'm a great mom according to BM, then a great stepmom to her kids. At this point, I don't care what they call me as long as it's not bad. It might hurt me a little to be called mom for about 3 years now and then back to my first name but I have known the whole time that it's a possibility, that's why I didn't want it to start. I'm not their mom, I know this. I didn't make their mom leave them, she did that.

But why encourage her kids to call me mom and then get pissed at them for doing so. Does she just come up with this shit thinking it's a good idea at the time and then when she changes her mind about the situation she feels it needs to stop immediately?

and then the texts and VM's "make SD's be nice to me" bahahahaahha... I do encourage them to be nice.. I now have it to where they are respectful to her but they know they don't have to kiss her ass just because she wants them to.

This is just something I have been thinking about off and on. I don't get it, probably never will.