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meganmackenzie33@yahoo.com's picture

Ok so here we go... I started dating the love of my life a few years ago and still think he is so. I knew my man had kids but I guess I never thought I would become a "mom". The term "mom" is slightly out of line though because these children have a mom that has left them time and time again to go get high and screw other people.... she did drugs and got drunk while pregnant whith both of them. They are continuasually disrespectful to not only me but every adult they come in contact with but everyones excuse is their mom left so be nice.. I just had a baby.. 2 months old.. and i overheard them talking about how easy it is to kill a baby. "If you stabbed a baby in the heart it would die..."and if you slit the babies throat it would die." My fiance thinks thats normal behavor for a 6 and 7 year old and I personally thinks it is disgusting. Their mom is a crazy drug head but she just got in a car wreck and lived and now is making me feel nuts. Here is my question though... the mom is not stable... i have to watch these kids 24 hours a day and their mom is obviously not okay. I need a break so how else do i get one?

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thinkthrice's picture

The only break you'll ever get is by exiting this "relationship." Oh and you may not want to use an email address as your screen name.

Amcc13's picture

If you have heard them say this about your child and your partner refuses to act then you must act. Take your child to a safe place and stay there. Insist on parenting classes and marriage counselling for you and partner and counselling for these children. Do not let your baby hurt

LadyJ's picture

I'd change my username if I were you. If any of them Google you this blog post would come up.

Teas83's picture

That is not normal behaviour for kids that age - it's disturbing. I would not want to have my baby around these kids.

Disneyfan's picture

You heard this and did/said nothing to the kids. :? You told your SO who did/said nothing to the kids. :?

Your question isn't how do I protect my child from his crazy kids. NOPE You just want to know how do YOU get a break from the nutty duo. :? :? :?

Rags's picture

This love of your life guy and the father of your child needs to step up and eliminate any threat to his new baby even if those threats are primarily his prior relationship 6&7yo sex trophies.

If I had made a comment about eliminate my younger brothers my life would have been just about immediately forefeit when my mom or dad found out.

Time to give your DH clarity and call in the authorities. These kids need heavy meds and to have their heads shrunk agressively until they no longer represent even a verbal threat to the welbeing of your new baby. That your DH thinks that this is normal 6&7yo behavior tells me all I need to know that his useless ass.

Get your kid away that that shallow and polluted gene pool. NOW!!!!

As for breaks.... DH needs to understand that if either of his toxic crotch droppings so much as sneezes on your child the only break anyone gets will be their toxic little necks snapping.

Take care of your baby and yourself. The love of your life won't.

Disneyfan's picture

But dad wasn't the only one who did nothing. She heard what was said and didn't do one thing to check their little assessment or to protect her baby. Why does dad get the blame for doing the same thing the OP did which is nothing?

RainbowsAndDaisies's picture

Children need to be parented. As in the verb, to parent. Children with a crappy mother, drugs and alcohol in their lives, and massive instability in their lives need to be parented the most.

Find a reputable child psychologist. Call the child psychologist. Make an appointment with the child psychologist. Take the kids to regular meetings with the child psychologist. First thing you and dh say to the child psychologist: We have over heard the Skids talk about stabbing the baby.

Your dh needs to parent his kids. From one custodial stepmom of a kid with a crappy druggy mother to another - if you want to stay in your marriage you are also going to have to parent these kids. Kids with crappy druggy absent-ish parents need a lot of parenting.

Buy child development books. Buy parenting books. Read them.

Do not leave your Akids unattended with the baby for even two seconds. If at all possible do not leave those children unattended at all.

Is there a court order on the BM? Does she have supervised visitation?

Disneyfan's picture

The OP isn't married. Why in the world should she waste time doing all of that instead of taking steps to protect her child NOW?

Read the question in her OP. She isn't interested in protecting her baby or getting the SKS the help they need. Her onlyrics concern is how can she get a break. :sick:

All 3 of the kids involved are doomed because they all have crazy parents.

still learning's picture

"baby.. 2 months old.. and i overheard them talking about how easy it is to kill a baby. "If you stabbed a baby in the heart it would die..."and if you slit the babies throat it would die."

I really hope this story does not end up in the news. You have to take any threats to your baby's life seriously. Leave now, you cannot live with these hell spawn and your man will not protect your baby. Get custody, child support, GO!

robin333's picture

If you are being serious and forthright about skid's threats, why is your baby anywhere around them? Why are you watching them 24/7?

Please get a job if you don't have one and become self reliant.

loveandfitness's picture

that IS NOT NORMAL and NOT OKAY. I wouldn't trust them anywhere near my baby, or myself for that matter. You're not married yet, so GET OUT. Just don't do it. It's the only advice I have. Once you're married it will be even harder to do get away.

fuckitall's picture

Very terrifying about those comments, please please never let them alone with your baby for a second! Lock the bedroom door at night