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mndblwn's picture

Submitted by mndblwn on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 6:02pm

So we decided to tell BM that if she agrees to it, whatever days are missed during her weekends for tee ball then we will give those days up over our summer break. We told her if he misses 9 days with her then she gets 9 days added to her summer break. We told her too that if she comes to the games and wants skid afterwards and its her weekend then fine she can take him.

BM wants DH to express the terms (she went to law school) in writing and sign it for her so that she knows he is sticking to his word. She acts as if we have lied or cheated her in the past which is not the case by any means. She gave skid a week early to us during the summer and we let her know she messed up so she could have all her time. We don't try and cheat only she does.

So do you all think I'm going to too much trouble for skid to play tee ball? It's not a big deal for DH to write a paper saying that he is taking these days and giving those days. Is this something we should try each year with sports over skid?

I also think that the golf excuse was just that....an excuse. I don't think golf is the same time as tee ball.

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Kilgore SMom's picture

Submitted by Kilgore SMom on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 6:23pm

Sounds like it is just the lawyer in her that likes to have everything perfect and on paper. That will give ya'll a good idea on how to deal with her later on. I think its fare to trade days and to have it in writing(although I think in writing is a little much). For the sake of getting along I'd do it so that the kids could play ball with their friends. I'm glad for the kids.

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Submitted by Ommy on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 6:34pm

do it. yes it a hassle and a pain but it is for the kid. It isnt fair to him to miss out because of visitation. some BM's make it harder then it should be.

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Submitted by stepmomto3bioto1 on Mon, 02/27/2012 - 11:18pm

I think thats a great comprimise!! I wish our BM would do something like that. We are at acplace with our BM that we ask for atleast emails to prove we have agreed to things. Our BM is shady with us tho, and lies after we have all made agreement to visitation times. But, finally this last time she tried to lie we had her email to back us up. So sometimes it ends up in your favor to have stuff in writing,etc. love the comprimise here!!

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Submitted by B22S22 on Tue, 02/28/2012 - 6:12am

I'd think it's a great idea because turn-about is fair play. You said the BM switches up on you, so if she wants YOU to put changes in writing, maybe your DH can say, "Hey BM, this is a great idea, I think from now on when there are requests for changes either way, we need to put it in writing."