Reading time for my ss who is a first grader seems difficult. He is a bright boy and can ready flashcards with words on them yet ready a simple boom like "Nan and Dan sat." seems hard or just not wanting to read so the "I dont know" comes out. DH does the reading homework because i get frustrated. sometimes i think im not ready for kids but i also feel that my ss is just plain lazy. bm babies him while at her house and then he is expected to be somewhat of an independent kid at our house. he can do the reading i know he can because im sure his teachers would let us know if he wasn't up to par. no teacher has done that yet. when we tell ss that he will get something as a reward for reading then its magical how well he can read. should this be a good way of getting him through school or is it best to teach him that not everything in life deserves rewards?? i know how my parents raised me so im confused. DH isn't as tough as i am so skid definitely only wants dad to be around. still silence between skid and i. it's difficult for me because dinner time turns into an all out fight because skid pouts because he eats healthy food with us and fast/junk with bm.

advice is needed because it turns into two separate lives on the weekends. me alone and then skid with DH.