Twins and birthday parties
So because SSs are twins- even though they are almost 8, in separate classes at school, have different personalities and different interests and different friends- BM always lobbies for them BOTH to be invited whenever one is invited to a birthday party.
IMO, if two people attend a birthday party, each needs to bring a gift. So they must bring twice the gift that they would bring if they just HONORED THE F-ING INVITATION and stopped BEGGING PEOPLE TO BOTH ATTEND.
So when it's our weekend with SSs, WE must spend twice the amount we would normally have spent, just because BM and apparently DH, for going along with it, think that their wittle baby boys both need to be invited to the party....wouldn't want those wittle twinnies to be apart or for one wittle twin to have his feewings hurt and be weft out.......
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.
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How stupid though.....I know
How stupid though.....I know it's convenient but my ex-H and I lovelovelove one-on-one time with our kids. When we drop one at a party it gives us time to have a "date" with the other child. Ah, but I just remembered- he and I (and DH) love our kids and really care about their needs- BM still hasn't mastered this...
I have twins and for the most
I have twins and for the most part the parents were always pretty good in if they invited one the other was invited. This changed as they got older I would say around 10 or so when they really started to identify their own friends that were not shared.
With that being said, who and where did you get the idea that both children must show up with a gift or the gift must be doubled?
That is something YOU have decided. And let me tell you what I know because I have spoke to many many parents about this issue. Parents inviting a 8 year old to a party at their home they dont have a "per head" cost associated to this. Most parents realize that money is tight and understand that you have two coming.
So dont blame BM for your preconceived notion about what the gift has too be.
Im not being mean I am just saying that you dont "have to double the gift" There are plenty of ways around that
Actually, unfortunately,
Actually, unfortunately, birthday parties where we live are like weddings- you attend ridiculous parties that are NEVER at people's homes but rather at public venues, and you are expected to give a gift that covers the cost. It is just what is done. I didn't decide this. Societal birthday madness. I could choose not to partake, though- you have a point. But it would be hard for the kids.
OMGoodness- I must say that I
OMGoodness- I must say that I have less than no idea why you would say the above to me. I was not 1) being racist or bigoted; 2) making any assumptions about your mom's parenting abilities or 3) looking for a fight!!! I'm sad that you've met with so much judgement in your life to make you so angry and defensive- but none of it came from me.
It's almost as if, from your response, you think that you and I know each other?? I'm actually quite confused by your venom.