I was unable to carry children of my own and now am blessed with 2 step children.  I have been part of our children’s life’s since they were 2 and 3.  They call me Momma and have very little contact with their biological mother but still go to their Granny’s house every other weekend which gives their dad and I time. But I must admit it cuts me so deep that the kids look nothing like me.  I can’t seem to get over it when everyone comments on how beautiful their eyes are especially when people ask where do they get those eyes from.  I can’t help how I feel.  My husband makes me feel even worse because he thinks I should take it as a compliment that they think ours kids are so adorable but to me I feel like they are just saying he made adorable kids with his ex and I contribute nothing.  When in fact,  it those comments cause an anger that grows for her and makes me resent her and the fact that they are her kids.  At least I can be honest about my feelings.  I think he should atleast appreciate that.  I feel like I give so much of myself to the kids and I just can’t get over this.  Does anyone else get this?