Oh, I agree about Reddit. I believe that most posters are young adults so are coming at it from a stepkid POV. There was one post recently from a 16-year-old whose dad has been dating a woman for 4 years but hasn't married her because he promised his little poopsie when he first divorced that he wouldn't get remarried. Now, the woman and her 2 kids are about to become homeless due to something that the OP admits isn't the woman's fault. The dad asks teenage Princess if the woman and her kids can come live with them until she gets a place. Poopsie told him if he does this, she will move out because it will make her uncomfortable, so the guy and gf are probably going to break up after 4 years. OP Poopsie asks "AITA?" Almost every reply is "NTA! Your dad is a PARENT first, and he made a promise to you! What kind of FATHER would he be if he broke that?!" Poopsie is almost 17. Pathetic. ETA the few times i've taken the rage bait and commented in support of a stepmom, my comment is removed lol. 

I have been cautioned and/or banned from several Reddit groups for being too direct or speaking truth that's inconvenient so it hurts fee fees. I have to consciously turn my inner knob to "more woke, less truth" when I log on over there.

There's so many younger people of limited perspective on Reddit. Many are entitled and were raised in a child centric way that prevented them from learning the world doesn't revolve around them. They truly don't see their parents as human beings and expect the one way relationship to continue forever. Endless variations of relationships subs, all advocating for the flawed & selfish me, me, me life philopsophy.

Seems like everyone hates SM's  though.  "You're supposed to love them like your own". " They were there first", " You knew he/she had kids", "you knew what you were getting into".  Let them get into a relationship with a man or woman with demon spawn and see how quickly they change their tune.  

You can post the link. I advise that users "hold" the link until a pop-up appears, then select Open in new tab or Open in new tab in group. 

What I've seen of Reddit is people complaining how single parents try to unload their "baggage" (not necessarily their kids per say but the nuances that come along with Disneyland bios, batsh*t crazy bm, money flying out the window to another woman's household in child support, no-home-training skids) then be so entitled acting like all the shenanigans they have going on isn't going to instantly decrease the quality of their new partners life. 
 

Maybe it's because I've been searching

"Love him but not his baggage"

"I don't want to be a step parent anymore"

"I don't want to live with stepkids"

"Single dads ridiculously high expectations"

I posted a lot in Reddit forums about my personal experiences (not opinions, my literal experiences) just to be chewed out.  It's delusional and just aims to stick to the ''status quo.''  

People have a very weird view on step parents on those sites like step parents should never get any sort of say on anything. I guess a step parent is just supposed to step into that role and just deal with whatever crap and nonsense is going on without ever expressing displeasure because they are not the true parent 

There was a post where this poor lady was seeing a man and he had kids around 5 or 6 years old. They had a tiny apartment. The dad allowed these kids to run around the house feral and she was venting they she felt they should go play outside if they were going to be doing sports and stuff in their small living room. It was creating chaos

She got blasted SO bad for expressing she thought these kids should be doing sports outside... That she is not the parent so she has absolutely no say.. Even though it's in her house and environment she has to also live with... 

I guess this doesn't matter at all.. The kids should be able to act out of control inside the home and god forbid anyone express the kids be sent outside.. Etc 

No the step parent doesn't get a say.. For what goes on inside their own home! Little poopsie can't be told they're acting too rambunctious indoors... 

Except that are all over the place. 

I was feeling fiesty when I responded to a post about a stepmom not being invited to a kid's wedding. The Dad was upset and considering not attending.

Stepmom was being excluded for all the normal reasons--makes BM uncomfortable, she's not "nice," "nobody" likes her, she's not real family.

I supported the Dad and pointed out that it's odd to start out one marriage by disrespecting another marriage. Comments were as expected. It's SD's wedding and she can invite whoever she wants to. It's HER day and the stepmom would ruin it. Bio dad would be picking his wife over his daughter and that should NEVER happen for ANY reason. 

I didn't comment again. 

These fringe of societal sputum that have the daddy needs to priorize his failed family gonad gargoyes over his wife are definately TA in the Reddit AITA continum far more often than not. 

When I was pregnant on the baby forums there were a few expectant step kids who didn't want their step mothers involved with their kids or were dreading having to include the step mother.

One woman was saying how her bio-mom had died when she was young and her father had remarried and the step mother had done too much, was too involved and tried to replace her mother and so was the worst person ever. I pointed out that her father was right there every step of the way and was the one who chose to get married, chose this woman, let her act like a mother (presumably by expecting her to take on that role and neglecting to do those "mothering" tasks himself), neglected to tackle the issue with any type of therapy. How as her bio- dad he had a greater responsibiity to his daughter so if she was angry at step mom she should be angry at her dad too. But, but, but....she could forgiver her dad but not the step mom.... I gave up at that point. If now as an adult she can  stare her hypocracy in the face and claim it is justified she will never change. Perhaps the step mother didn't do the "best" thing in that situation but she tried, she wasn't abusive and just tried doing what she thought was right (what society tells step mothers is right). She didn't deserve the hatred that came from the step daughter.