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SHE IS SUCH A MORON!!!!!

Melise's picture

I watch SD 8:30-6:30 while her mom is at work. So today Biomom had made arrangments for me to watch SD this morning. I got up and waited and waited and waited.Well Biomom NEVER SHOWED UP. She didnt call and didnt answer the phone when I called to ask her if I still needed to watch SD. I am SO annoyed! She has NO common courtesy at all! No wonder people cant stand her and dont want to do things for her.

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happy's picture

At least you can smile knowing that you would be courtious...
Although I feel or at least hear what you are saying.. I would be annoyed at that as well.. Just smile and try to have a great day..

Bobbi's picture

Unless she was in a car accident or something, there is no excuse for not showing up or calling.

My BF's ex used to do stuff like that all the time and it would infuriate me. We don't have that problem too much anymore because now someone will go and pick his daughter up. We don't wait around for his ex anymore.

lovin-life's picture

Do you charge a fee for your "daycare services"? You should at least charge a cancellation fee. lol

I hate letting pople like that get to me!!! It just makes me feel like they've won!!! Why would a person not even call? It's so rude..and they must know it's going to piss you off.

Don't give her the satisfaction!

Candice's picture

this is such a familiar ring with me. This summer my ss was suppose to go to summer day camp to keep him from being married to a couch. Fyi, my ss is 4'9" and at that time he was 117 pounds b/c dh and I got him to lose 10 pounds of body fat. He is so heavy, sadly, he has cellulite on his man boobs and he is only 12.

Anyhow, bm said "yes..thank you so much. Please sign him up for weeks..blah blah..and let me know how much it costs and I will reimburse you. I will return him on this day..blah blah" I said okay. Well, I do some thinking, and based on her past...I don't bother signing him up. She is so unreliable, that I didn't bother wasting my time or money signing him up for a non-refundable camp...and sure enough, she never bothered to call us to touch basis about camp, nor did she volunteer to return him for camp on the day she promised to return him.

I knew better than to call her ask "confirm" if he was going, I knew she was just blowing smoke up my ass. And I was right.

My advice for you is do not accept performing "favors" for the ex. When she calls, pass the phone to your dh, and let him get out of bed early to watch his daughter. I at all costs, never go out of my way for unreliable, unappreciative people. She does this b/c she doesn't appreciate your help, nor does she have any value in a schedule. If she needs help in the early a.m. and you are already watching sd in the evening, how about she just stays the night? Otherwise, tell bm she needs to find someone else in the a.m.

Candice's picture

If I can help one person not go through the same bs I went through then it was worth it!

Melise's picture

I guess the only reason I do watch SD is because DH is already at work when Biomom goes to work and SD has asked all of us (me,DH,and Biomom) if she can please come spend the day with me rather than going to daycare while her mother works. If i knew it would not hurt my SD I would for sure tell Biomom to forget it. I am really the only form of a stable mother this wonderful little girl has and I would rather have my time interupted and have to be annoyed for a little while than have SD be anymore confused and feel anymore upset and unstable than she already does because of this stupid selfish B****

Candice's picture

I understand where you are coming from. It's just too bad so many children are born to these idiots!!!

Anonymous's picture

Tell the step mom if she cannot bother to call or drop the child off when she says, then she will have to find someone else from now on. It may be hard on the child, but eventually the bio mother will get the hint. Does she by any chance pay you for the care of her child while she is at work or do you do this for free?? If you do, do it for free, then tell her you will start charging her if she can't bother to at least call or give you advance notice that she does not need you.

happy mom's picture

Biomom was suppose to drop off SS so I can watch him in the morning...then nothing. I had my husband call her and she said oh, he doesn't want to go there and will stay home w/grandma. I was furious and I swear, next time I'll call her so I can bitch her out!

I know how you feel.

-happy mom