Uh, wow. Just ... wow.

If your DH lost custody of his kid because you angrily texted BM on the night he had SEX with her ... DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. You're only human. DH shouldn't have gone there and slept with the child abusing slut to begin with. Of course, your reaction was inappropriate, but he made his bed - literally!

Last time I checked, just because there's marital issues, does not give anyone permission to go sleep around. He wanted to do something that would get to you - well, it backfired and now it's going to bite him in the ass. He's got nobody to blame but himself. I would also venture to guess you aren't the one who informed the paper of the incident so they could publish it for public knowledge? Give yourself a break - you both made some bad decisions that night. Keep working on your marriage and move forward.

Damn. I'd kick the living shit out of him and be done with them all. You are either a better woman than me or have better drugs. More power to you.

"Courage is fear holding on a minute longer." General George S. Patton

WOW
why are you still with this man?
run baby run!!!!!!!

I would just be truthful when you all go to court or maybe it will settle out of court. Your actions shouldn't affect the custody even though you and the bm don't get along. One text message won't change the situation... at least it shouldn't. Is your sd telling the mom that you aren't saying nice things about her? She is old enough to testify in court if it would come down to that. I can totally relate to your situation, the bm of my ss hates me too. She continually slanders me on the internet. We can only take so much shit right??? I feel that sometimes you have to just let it out. If the mom has abused the daughter since your last court date then that is something you can also bring up. Good luck.

WTF?????!!!!!!

What are you doing? I completely agree with everyone that you need to turn this loser free and run away before they "tarnish" you with their trashiness!!! If my H EVER touched BM after being with me, I would never speak to him again. If he was even able to, ahem, get things going enough to throw his sausage down that old decrepit hallway after being with me, I would be so grossed out that it would make my skin crawl to even touch him. He wouldn't be the person he is if he had anything to do with BM now that he knows how bad she can get and how crazy she is. She is massively repulsive and I can't imagine H even hugging her, letting along having sex with her! I have a hard enough time knowing that they had sex before, but mostly because the image just grosses me out so much. It grosses H out way more because he yells "lalala" and covers his ears, laughing whenever I jokingly describe a BM seduction. That and old people sex. Those are his pics for grossest thing ever. But I digress. Anyway, the BM sounds like she is a trashy slut and fully worthy of contempt, but I am disgusted that your H had anything to do with her because that makes him as gross as she is! I think your text was in perfect taste, considering the actions that they were engaging in and I wouldn't waste a second of guilt on this at all. You lost your temper for a very valid reason and you didn't hurt anybody. If H's child custody gets threatened it is because of his own horrible choices, not you. YOU DESERVE BETTER!!! RUN AWAY!! I know it is never as easy as this, but this is most definitely a deal breaker, a line crosser, a hell freezing over kind of situation. I think we are all in agreement that if our H's had sex with the BM on any kind of a break or split, it would absolutely eliminate any possibility of getting back together. EVER.

On an OT point, I think this is interesting in that it is one example of a BM having absolutely no pride or self respect and "taking back" an ex, even for one night of revenge sex (I wonder if this guy put it like that to BM? "Hey babe, want to have sex because I want to piss off the old ball and chain? Nothing would make her angrier. Are you turned on yet?"). It shows, at least with one example, that in the rare situation of an H/BF/FH having anything to do with the BM after being with the hotter, smarter, nicer model the BM will flop on her back and open her legs, regardless of how pathetic or trashy it makes her. I am disgusted, but not surprised. I think this would be a lot more common of a complaint on here if any of our H's were willing to touch those disgusting trolls, even for revenge. I know that my BM would take back H in a heartbeat if she got the chance and I get that feeling about most of the crazy BMs on here. EVEN if H did tell her that it was purely to piss me off and had nothing to do with him liking her, she would absolutely go for it. This is because she's creepy, pathetic and disgusting and has no pride or self-respect.

"The truth shall set you free." ~John 8:32

If HE loses custody it is HIS fault. His child his problem.

You know why it is his fault? Becuz he had sex with BM ( I am sorry but I do not know how you stay with this guy) to get back at you, BM had sex with your H becuz she knew it would piss you off and give her leverage in custody dispute.

I am sorry but gosh how do you stick around? I could spit fire and I don't even know you!

If you have a job, the money and the confidence, leave him now..please? I wish you the best of luck, but you don't need to feel guilty over anything. His ex wife is pathetic..

I'd really like to know how you got past him sleeping with BM and took him back? Separated or not...how do you even look at them without picturing it? Sorry, just wondering!

"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"