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Submitted by mckenzie0806 on Mon, 03/09/2009 - 9:56am

Ok, so it has been a very long time since i posted...But I feel the need BIG time today. I am so freaking pis**d that I feel like just screaming. As some of you know, my DH was awarded custody of SD10 about a year ago after her BM beat the crap out of her and was charged and convicted of child abuse. Well, this weekend was the BM's weekend and SD's 10th bday too. I was upset already because we wouldnt get to see her or do cake or anything, I love her more than words can say and have fought for this baby for 5 years now. Well, wouldnt you know, BM decides she isnt going to answer the phone AT ALL on Saturday (SD's bday). No answer to text no answers to calls...nothing. My DH is at National Guard so he asks me to drive by their house. Strange car in driveway, noone home. We called all day to try and talk to her..I sent her flowers at school on Friday and took cupcakes to class because I felt bad about not seeing her on her bday. I am SOOO mad I can see red. I took SD 10 her Add med this morning at school and she said that her mom left her cell phone at home on Saturday and thats why we didnt get to talk to her. Bullsh*t. You can tell when she lies. So not only am i mad at worthless BM, now i am mad at SD for lying!!!! I am so tired of this crap.

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Submitted by mckenzie0806 on Mon, 03/09/2009 - 1:01pm

mad at SD so much...I know that she is being put in an unbelievable situation..between a BD and SM who love her and her BM (who in my personal opinion could care less). I feel really really bad for her. But that being said, doesnt excuse the lying. What i am mad about is the fact that her evil mother wouldnt let her dad talk to her on her birthday. How worthless. I am a BM too, and no matter how much my daughter's dad irks me i would have her call him 1st thing on her bday, holidays and even his bday

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Submitted by Serena (not verified) on Mon, 03/09/2009 - 1:08pm

I thought you were saying that BM didn't pick her up for her visitation and SD was trying to call to come get her. I understand now, you're mad b/c your H tried to call SD to wish her a happy birthday and BM wouldn't answer the phone?

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Submitted by mckenzie0806 on Mon, 03/09/2009 - 1:16pm

he called ALL day saturday to talk to his daughter. From 9am to 9pm. Left messages, text...no answers. No matter what I think of her (BM) she has no right to hurt my DH. None. And no right to keep SD from her BD on her bday

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Submitted by Serena (not verified) on Mon, 03/09/2009 - 12:46pm

I've explained that lying is unacceptable, but I think he's lying more to himself than to me. I honestly believe that he's just saying it out loud, hoping it's true. "Well, dad didn't have enough gas money to come to my scout banquet" "Dad is really busy at work and doesn't have time to take us on his weekend" "Dad can't afford to take us to do stuff, so we just watch movies while he sleeps" I don't know if his dad tells him these things or if he's making them up. Either way, I let it go. It's so painful as a child to discover just how low you are on the list of priorities to these crappy parents. I figure that if BS has to tell himself that to not feel like his dad doesn't love him, then there is really no harm done. Not that I condone lying (in fact I am a Nazi about it in most other circumstances), but sometimes we have to look at these things from the child's point of view. If that were you, wouldn't you want more than anything to believe that the "she forgot her cell phone" story was true?!