I would delete it. We have to choose our battles and I would choose not to fight this one. Whenever we put things online we are subject to this happening.

I have a myspace and I did some surveys that had things that she feels are about her in them. She is threatening "Slander", but really its not. Its LIBEL if she wants to get tech about it. lol. So I am in the same boat. However we are fighting for custody for ss. I feel the same way you do. They are your opinion...and thats it. Mine were my opinion. Why do BM have to make things so hard on us? Im a BM and I would never do these things!! Good luck with your bogs.

for a couple of reasons. Reason 1, she can't sue your DH for something your writing about.
Reason 2, she can't sue you for telling the truth or stating your opinion, just be sure that if you say anything about her that cannot be proved, eg. she is so mean, put in my opinion she is so mean.
Reason 3, give in on this and she will began demanding and threating more.
Reason 4, who cares if she wants to scream? You don't have to listen, hang up the phone.
Reason 5, she has no right to dictate what you can cannot do with your life.
Reason 6, since she didn't tell you, and DH told her to talk to you herself, you don't know a thing.
Reason 7, as long as you have court ordered visitation, the police can assist you in getting the children.
Reason 8, BM does not have as much power as she thinks she does as long as you and DH do not give it to her.

When BM would become unreasonable, we became impossible. She soon figured out that if she didn't want to play by the rules, we would play by a whole different set. This woman was a character. She even threatened to have kidnapping charges put on DH for his OWN visitation weekend. I told her to go right ahead. She never did, she couldn't, but she tried to control us that way. That's all this is, a way to control you. Your DH needs to tell her that she can choose to do what she wants, but he will continue to see his children no matter what she thinks.

~THE EXERCISE THAT REALLY CHANGES YOUR LIFE IS WALKING DOWN THE AISLE~

If you've never identified her in any of your blogs, why should she worry? Unless of course she is just embarassed to see the truth. There is nothing she can do to you except make demands.

We are on the flip side of your situation. The BM and oldest child both belong to an internet forum, and the stories they tell are whoppers. They flat out lie and have fooled a lot of people. The oldest child has been saying very hurtful things about DH. The only saving grace is that he is not identified by name. We are keeping copies of things they are posting. We know that someday the information will be useful. I know if they knew we found their posts they would have a fit and accuse us of stalking them on the internet, but when you posts things out there on public forums you lose all expectations to privacy.

Is there a way you can make your blog private or accessible only by those you choose?

does it have your real name? if it does, then i would delete it bc if anyone knows any of u it wouldnt be hard to put 2 and 2 together and know who u were refering to. if not, screw her.

and eliminate the problem.

any 'names' of her, your dh or your skids or posted pictures of faces, i don't think she has a THING on you. i would leave it where it is, tell her to get a life, that this is none of her business really (they are your thoughts that belong to YOU) and that she should stop wasting her time poking around looking for you on the world wide internet and go find herself a new hobby. end of story.

Just trying to be a Stepmom without getting Stepped On.

I'd say this:

Precautions have been taken to prevent the casual reader of my blog from connecting my comments specifically with you by name. Your identity remains safe.

Then don't say another word to her about it. Ever. Tell your DH that he should not address it with her, either. If she tries to bring it up, just tell her "I'm sorry you feel that way" and then change the subject.

She's rubbernecking, Silversomething. She's driving past the train wreck of her own life and can't stop staring at it, because you've placed it so neatly right there in front of her. She can't help herself. That's why she keeps coming back. As for people reading it and finding out what she's done, hey, don't do the crime if you can't do the time. We all make mistakes. So someday her children will find out she's - shriek! - imperfect. If she were smart, she'd tell them herself first and, hopefully, teach them a lesson from her own failures. If you find it cathartic, don't give it up. Disguise it, change servers/hosts, reconfigure it if you feel it's safer that way, but don't give it up if you don't want to.

Stick the little fiction disclaimer on it...

"This is a work of fiction. Names, characters, places and incidents either are the product of the author’s imagination or are used fictitiously, and any resemblance to any actual persons, living or dead, events or locales is entirely coincidental."

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

If you let her continue to encroach on your life, you will start to have little respect for yourself as she takes more and more control of you and DH.

Livin' my life like it's golden!

She sounds like she's beginning to exhibit the behaviors that my SS's BM started out with four years ago...which can aptly be named "The Decent to Hell". If you want to read some scary stuff, go check out some of my blogs on this site from a couple of years ago. Can we say, "Cuckoo...cuckoo..."

Looking at a website 70 times in one day is not simply casually checking it for changes. Considering that the average person is only CONSCIOUS for 16 hours a day, that means she's checking your website about every 15 minutes...that's stalking. She's sitting on her computer all day long reading every single little thing that you write to hopefully use it against you later.

If that is something that you are OK with, then by all means leave your blog up and public.

I learned a long time ago that while it is letting her "win" a small battle, it's sometimes just not worth the stress that it puts on YOU to "put your foot down". I found myself checking my website statistics constantly, checking my email dozens, sometimes hundreds of times a day, and trolling every website that I had anything to do with every single day to see if BM had been there or left her mark in some way. I amassed hundreds of pages of evidence against BM for stalking and harrassment....but after all the stress and anxiety and sitting up at night with your mind racing thinking of the next retort you'll have to BM's ridiculous crap it gets to a point that you really have to step back and wonder...is it worth it? After a couple of years of driving myself crazy wondering when the next anonymous flame post or indecent remark would be made by her on one of my websites, I decided that it's SO not worth it. She may not be doing it now, but try exercising your rights for a couple months and see what happens...I guarantee you she will.

Try not to look at it as giving her "control", because that's not really WHY you're doing it. It's more like "damage control". Most blog sites/software have the ability to make certain entries private/priveledged while others remain public. If all of the entries which mention BM in any form are in the past, perhaps you could just make them all private so that they're not a problem anymore?

After saying all of that, I have to wonder...if you're linking this blog to your business, why are you trying to protect its entries which are personal in nature? You don't want potential customers reading about your personal life and all your dirty laundry, right?

I really hope I didn't come across as preachy or mean...just trying to say "been there, done that, burned my f***ing T-shirt!"

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

I agree with leave it up. You never want to give her control over what can and can not do with your life. If you take anything down, do it for yourself, NOT because she said to. The minute you give her power over what you do, she will take advantage of it. BM's can be like kids. They will push their limits to see how far they can go. You have to show them their boundaries. I also would not respond to her demands. Thats what she wants. She wants you to feel upset because her feelings for whatever reason may be hurt. Don't give her demands the time of day and if she wants to torture herself by reading your blog every 15 minutes, let her. It's not hurting you...