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Jealously and I'm just plain annoyed

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Submitted by Marie09 on Mon, 11/09/2009 - 9:49am

So this wkd, we went to visit my SIL who lives a few hours from us. My DH loves her kids and we dont get to see them much. So we decided to go for the wkd with my two SS's. It was HORRIBLE!! SS8 & SS4 both threw fits of jealously when DH played with neice who is 3 and nephew who is 18 mos. They were riducolous. They've never acted like this before when we've gone for a visit. Than on the way home we stopped for dinner. And at dinner SS4 doesnt remember his parents being together, he thinks I was there when he was born, even though we tell him I wasnt. Well, anyway, he likes to talk about when he was a baby and said "daddy who's house did I live at when I was a baby and who lived there?" DH looked at me and SS8 practically jumped out of his chair to say "daddy lived with mommy when you were a baby." Than he proceded to have an attitude for the rest of the night and even one this morning. I TRY to be patient as I come from a broken home as well. But everytime we go forward, we go 5 steps back. Its horrible but if DH didnt have children, we'd have a near perfect life!!

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Submitted by buttercup123 on Mon, 11/09/2009 - 10:42am

They are young and this is all very normal. If I were you guys I'd get a great child psychologist to help them move on and heal.

I know it's really hard but try and be patient. Kids act up like that wen they are feeling insecure. Once they start to feel that they are loved and secure, the jealousy will abate and the temper tantrums will lessen.

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Wed, 11/11/2009 - 12:41am

I know someone who has told me many times I need to do X or Y or Z with my DH's daughter...she treats her SD like a queen...I always wonder if it's her guilt as one day that daughter WILL figure it out...you see, this person was friends with the BM, the BM offered a room in her house to her when she divorced and then she ended up taking her now husband away from her friend...but she LIVED with her friend and husband when they had their daughter...ie. my friend's SD...

I think I would be more worried if that was the case, than of telling them that he lived with his mom and dad, etc...just keep telling him the truth...as he gets older, he will understand...