Lately it has been tough. I’ve been with my BF for 9 years. We have had a rocky relationship. 

As of late, I have notice my BF siding with my SD14, constantly. When it comes to chores, he never thinks I am fair. I rotate after dinner dishes, sweeping the floor, taking out the garbage, etc. Each day, they all have a different job. Once it’s done, it’s done. However, on any of her days, regardless of what her chore is, she complains, and I often end up doing it. She will throw a fit and he will side with her. If it’s my children doing their jobs, he gives them extra and often makes them do his daughter’s chores when I am gone. She also tattles about everything, if one of the kids are listening to music at the same time as she is, in separate rooms. He will ask mine to turn theirs down or off, so that she can hear hers. If his daughter loses her phone for back talking, even if she only loses it for a few hours, he will take my daughter’s phone for no reason. My children don’t want to be around him if I’m not there, because they feel that they are treated unfairly. I e talked to him about it, yet he sees no problem doing what he is doing. When she talks back to me, he doesn’t jump in until I take her phone(which I solely pay for) but won’t jump in when she is being disrespectful, however he is quick to jump in when my own daughter and I are having a banter. 

Mist gotten to the point where I am tempted to save enough money to move out. I’m over it. I want to make this work but this has been going on for a few years now (ever since her mom came back in the picture, she had lost all rights to all of her children for over 4 years). Now it’s worse than ever. HELP!!