When they got home. He was still fumed. SS whined the whole time he was with him at work and guess what??? He couldn't handle it! But he never caved in! 
He told him to immediately go to his room unplug the PS4 and bring it upstairs. Also, to do his homework and once he's done let him know, so he could check.

Has parenting prevailed today! I think so... I am floored! Also, he's in bed too!!! Put him to sleep at 10:30! I was beyond shocked! SS has been going to bed at 1/2am because DH never stay up enough to make sure he's sleeping and SS is on his phone. 
 

Let's see what tomorrow brings... I'll be back at the same bat time and same bat channel! Hahah 

Well, I did it. I told off the BM.

SS9 going on 10, he can be thorn in my side and is spoiled beyond belief. Therefore feels he can get spoiled here. After the last incident of him copping attitude and making shit comments, BM contacted DH to find out what happened because SS told her (in his words) what he had done and what punishment he got. (None of which had none of my input or anything, I didn't even get involved) DH stuck to his guns with his punishment by taking away phone and PS4, with that being said it was actually pleasant to see a 9 year old doing what other children can do outside of having electronics rule his life (example: colored, drew, played basketball outside, played on his scooter throughout the neighborhood, went to the park with DH while walking the dogs, play board games and etc)! It was wonderful to see a kid be a kid! 
 

But here comes BM wanting to know why he was punished. (As she has a right to inquire) DH relayed to her what happened and therefore punished their child because he doesn't raise his kid to be a disrespectful boy to anyone! She on the other hand had her own thoughts and gave her "opinion" on how she like to be punished. DH, told her that in this house he will punish his son where he sees fit and she should do the same in her household and to mind her business.... I was actually floored, because he never goes against the grain with BM, just cause she a bitch and does stupid shit to make it hard for DH when it comes to SS. But that's not my problem to deal with that is his. I stay out of it. 
 

Nevertheless, I get a FB message of her telling what she thinks about my house and how she doesn't want me to talk to her Son and that she better not hear anything negative when he gets back from his visits and etc... Lolol I'm laughing because she acts like a child and is much younger than me and can't seem to understand what consequences are when it comes to raising a decent young boy, she just prefers to allow SS to call the shots and is technically raising a degenerate, she lacks parenting. But, not my problem either- only my issue when he acts like he can do whatever he wants and etc in my house. It's respect. 
 

I obliged with my response: "Thank you for your very thoughtful message and insight on how, when or what I should do in my own house. What happens in my house in none of your business! However, when it comes to your son and how your ex (my DH) raises his son in this house is on him 100%, I never involve myself unless it affect the very house this child is under. Given that, his father refuses to have a child smell and wear the same outfit for days straight, if you like that in your house (good for you) but here he's required to know what personal hygiene is and shower daily. This is how his father raises him.  DH refuseS to have a young boy never wash his hand, since he eats with his handS, play with his hair, has his hand on dirty controller and etc., so washing hands before and after meals and playing is something he should have learned along time ago and by his own mother. CLEARLY, that doesn't happen, because he is retainer how to do these thing and at his age he should have known this from when he was a toddler. I rarely talk to your child and when I do it's because I should have a decent relationship  with your son since I am apart of his life and the life of his father. By all means I'm not his mother and DO NOT EVER want to take the place as his mother, but as a mother myself you should be happy that I want to be a positive role mode in his life and treat him as if he is my own and spend time with him, also have him learn how to be a decent young man and to grown up to be a successful adult, itself! You on the other hand feel like you have some management of what happens here, but you have merely no say so at all! I suggest you keep your stupid thoughts, suggestions and take that up with your ex. Just a reminder this is MYhouse- I pay the bills, we make the rules, and I don't see you or anyone else doing that, therefore you're opinion is never warranted. Now, if you have a issue about how your son is on punishment for his seriously lack of respect, I'd be questioning how your raising him and teaching him. Never put that on me. Talk to your baby daddy and come to an agreement on how you are both raising him and what works best for your son and etc. Don't come to me with your messages or threats like your gonna do something when all you're doing is making me laugh on how you are extremely childish and act like you have zero clue to make some positive impact or even hold an adult conversation with me. For the sake of your son and or all that is best, if you want a great relationship for the greater good of things- step the fuck back or step the fuck up, evaluate how you  are going to approach the situation or anyone, before you open your ignorant mouth! Maybe once you have self reflection and can conduct yourself like an adult and a mother- you'd understand where I'm coming from with this response. You don't dictate what happens here. I don't take orders from ignorant people. Get your shit together girlfriend, act like a lady. Just maybe I'll listen to you, if or when that happens, but in the meantime- your son isn't in harms way, I don't raise him, punish him nor treat him in any negative manner. Jeezus, I see where he gets his attitude from and you should pat yourself on the back because this is who YOUR RAISING!!!! 
 

needless to say: I didn't get a response, but DH heard a voicemail full. He has asked me what I sent sent to her and I showed him- he was not mad and felt that what I sent was ok- he did feel it was bashing, but given here initial message to me- it was called for to shut her up. (BM acts like she is better and smarter and can outwit anyone or just my DH. She's never had a actual confrontation with another woman or adult so I'm sure she didn't know how to handle it) 

I have not heard anything from her since, have not heard any attitude from SS, or any type of backlash. 
 

whatever, I felt good about letting her know my thoughts and if she doesn't like me, OH WELL! I'm not here to be her friend. I would have had a nice relationship with her if she could act like a decent person, but when that doesn't happen- I don't feel the need to.