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Submitted by lycansmom on Sat, 01/22/2011 - 3:25pm

I am new to this but i need somewhere to vent. So here goes. I am into a new marriage, but we have been together for five years. Along with the marriage has come two SD's age 12 and 14. I also have a 5 year old son. Two months ago the 14 year old came to live with us, in the start it was ok until she started pulling the everytime she doesn't get her way she wants to go back and live with her mom. So my husband gives in and she gets her way. I am at my breaking point. Also the birth mother and her family are not helping. All they do is bad mouth me and my son and husband. I have been called names that I will not even repeat. I am hurt tired and ready too walk out. What do I do?

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Submitted by lycansmom on Sat, 01/22/2011 - 4:40pm

Thanks, my husband started out doing ok with it all but now he is at the point where he tells me to ignore it. Well its kind of hard to do. I love my SD and believe me when i say she is better off here but there comes a point where all the drama gets to me and I feel like walking away is the best option.

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Submitted by oneoffour on Sat, 01/22/2011 - 5:05pm

How do you expect them to respect you and play nice? They won't. And this is the way it will be for sometime to come.

So are you going to let his ex and her family drive you away when you aren't even living with them? Are you in a small town? Do they live close by?

So they say mean things about your son. Well so what? You will meet mean people your entire life. The only thing you CAN do is prove by YOUR behaviour and YOUR actions that they are talking crap. Be a better person.

If your SD is coming and retelling this crap, face her down and say "I am not interested in what your mother and her family think about me and my son. But picking on a 5 yr old is pretty pathetic and nasty. So keep your opinions to yourself." And every time she tries to tell you, ignore her and walk away.

And I agree with the poster that suggested her father should ship her back to Mommy Dearest with the proviso she is welcome back to visit however she cannot move back for one year. She will skip off to her mother and in about 10 weeks be crying to come back and live with you two. And you don't let her back until a year has passed. Although I suspect she will stay a little longer each time to make the return to the Nut House further away.

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Submitted by lycansmom on Sat, 01/22/2011 - 5:42pm

I agree with everything you say. I know I need to grow a tougher skin to handle all this I just hate the fact that our son is dragged into it. And your right I believe she would come crying back in a very short time. a little background info her BM has 4 kids with 3 men and is prego again with a diffrent man. This one she ended up married to here is the best part though, he spends every weekend in jail for non-child support of his kids. She recieves no child support but from my husband and I think alot of her anger comes from the fact that it was cut in half when SD moved in with us.