Hmmmm.

Well. It was DD's 11 birthday on the 3rd, but she was interstate on visitation with her dad, so we had a sleepover party planned for Saturday night. SD13 asked OH during the week if she could have a friend sleepover - answer no.

Last week was crazy, I had to go and pick them up Wednesday - didn't get home til 1.20am. While I was away (was a day trip gone ALL day) I get a text from dd21 saying that sd had been in her room - dd closed the door when she went to work, and has a tamper method to tell if it's been opened. I called OH and told him that he needed to chat with sd about this and that I was NOT happy - sd entering the other kids rooms and stealing stuff is an ONGOING issue... The one time he got wind that my dd11 had been in sd's room he was ropable about her privacy and space being invaded - blah blah blah. Not a word has been said about it since although he promised me he would have stern words with her. Yeah right.

Thursday morning I got up, there was a terse note attached to an email to OH from the libraray basically asking me to find and return two DVD's.... "Brum" and "Sonny with a Chance" - brum is preschool and Sonny I guess preteen? (the implication being that one of MY kids had borrowed them on his card - I was damn sure they hadn't - he took both skids and dd7 to the library about 5-6 weeks ago and dd did borrow a couple of things but they had been returned AGES ago. He goes all the time with the SKIDS when mine are at dancing, either weds pm or Saturday...)

Anyway, I searched dd7's room - no dvd's, searched dd11's room - no dvd's, searched ss10's room - no dvd's, searched sd13's room - no dvd's.... however I did find an empty DVD case for "the Bee Movie" which belongs to dd11 and was kept in her room.... No DVD though.

Friday night I tell him I have searched ALL their rooms, as well as the family room and they aren't here, so he will need to tell them to check at BM's house as one of the skids must have taken them there.... He gets all pissy saying he KNOWS everything his kids have borrowed and they didn't borrow these, mine must have and they won't be at BM's. Quite an argument ensues where I tell him I am sure dd7 didn't borrow them, the ones she had from the one time he took her went back, - but he is insistent he is right, he has returned everything his kids had he keeps track, and that why would sd borrow Brum? (I can't answer that but then I know dd7 wouldn't be into it either)

In the end I go onto the library website to check the date they were borrowed... low and behold it was 2 Saturdays ago. sd13 and dd11 walked up to the library themselves, sd had his library card... we talk to the two of them and sd admits she borrowed them and took them to BM's...

No apology from OH....

A bit later I grab SD and take her into my room - I tell her while I was searching for the other dvd's I found the Bee Movie cover in her room, I tell her I am disappointed in her for going into dd11's room and taking it without permission and I tell her to go and find the disc. She disappears upstairs.

I then tell OH what I talked to her about. He says nothing.

Saturday. When it was his kids birthdays I did ALL the running around, I made the cake, did the loot bags, spent hours prepping for each party. So, he gets up and I have already dropped my two off at dancing. Am making the cake, have done two loads of washing... I ask him if he would mind vacuuming and making sure the upstairs bathroom is clean. He does this, then gets lunch for the two special snowflakes who have lazed around all morning and are unable to prepare their own food. I am still at work in the kitchen, and I overhear sd saying that she has spoken to friend and her mum is taking them both shopping blah blah, I ask when is this happening and OH says I am taking her over there now (45mins each way) I lost it. I told him I did ALL the work for his kids parties and he couldn't even make ONE day about my daughter and just stay and help? I said I still needed to cook blah blah, hang out the washing, decorate the house etc etc. but no, sd has to have her way. It was 1pm at this stage, I needed to leave at 4.20 to pick up the dd's and the other girls (all were from dancing) except one who was being dropped off at 5.30 - OH had promised he would be here as I wouldn't be back. Neither skid is even dressed or clean at this stage, so there is NO way they would be able to fit in what she wanted and be back.

He apologises and said he didn't realise I wanted him to do anything else as I hadn't asked, I said I just assumed he would ask me when he was done what else I needed doing, and that it wasn't too much to expect that on days like this he could put sd's wants aside for someone else to be important.

SD ran off upstairs at some point. OH hung the washing and then he and ss decorated the house, they did a GREAT job - ss is really a pretty good kid 90% of the time. Sd came down all dressed ready to go, sat on the couch and pouted.

At about 3.20 OH asks if I need anything else done. I say no thanks I appreciate your help. He takes off for a while with the skids.

I finish my jobs, shower and go to pick up the others. Just pulling in to my driveway at about 5.45 I get a call from the other mum asking if I am home yet - ummm yes? She says they were here at 5.30 but no-one was home, so she drove home again, to get her phone. I apologised and said OH was supposed to have been there.

Go inside and tell him about the call... He says "oh, sd's friends mum didn't get them back in time so we were late..." Soooo, at 3.20 he thought he had enough time to drive 45 minutes each way, so sd could go shopping with her friend and be home before 5.30????

No apology again...

Fuck I am so pissed off at him right now. As per bloody usual...

OH - then after he took skids home dd11 tells me that sd took her aside and said "I took your Bee Movie from your room, but I took it back to bm's and I have lost it and I don't have enough money to replace it..."

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Vent over.