Got up this morning, went to use the downstairs loo (we have three - one upstairs, one downstairs and one in our en suite) because OH was still asleep in our room and all the kids were upstairs.

No-one really uses the downstairs one - guests or if the others are in use.

SD used it last night right before bed. I was in there yesterday and all was "normal" LOL

So... I go in there this morning and there is pooh smeared on the wall - 3 stripes of it.

NOT HAPPY.

No-one has been in there since SD and I was the last one in there before SD. Disgusting little human. And when I say little I don't mean it - she "should" be a young lady at this point. She will be 14 next week FFS - who the fuck does that?

I have read of it here, and thought - well that's one issue I don't have at least!!!!! FML

No point saying anything I have found - OH would just make excuses say it wasn't her etc. So I cleaned it up.

On other matters - she came home Saturday with her friend and saw her clean door. Cried to OH about how much that stuff meant to her.... yeah, some free supermarket stickers and some miss-spelt words (see previous blog) Her and SS refused to speak to me for the rest of the day. What ever. Bit awkward because all the kids had friends sleeping over that night. Her and her friend stayed in her room the entire time. SD sleeps in.... late..... like 1pm today. Apparently the friend called her dad at 10am and asked him to come and get her. He called OH and told OH she was upset and wanted picking up immediately. My kids and their friends were both up already.... So, the dad came and the friend left. Oh well. I am sure sitting in SD's room pigging out on contraband junk food was a barrel of laughs for her, while all the other kids played games and made videos on the ipad...

BM sent her over with a lockable case this visit. So that I can't take her food and she can pig out all she likes in her room. Classy BM. Just what your obese daughter needs - you enabling her.

Oh - OH freaked out about the door - I should have discussed it with him apparently. LMAO - like he did with me when he allowed it perhaps? I pointed this out to him. Also that I do not make changes to our home without discussing them with him first and that hell yes he should have told SD that he and I would discuss it and get back to her -

1. shows her to respect her partner enough not to make unilateral decisions in the future.
2. shows her that OH respects ME.
3. she learns that compromise wins out.

I said he couldn't really complain about me cleaning it because I kept my calm on Wednesday when I saw it, although I was angry I did not yell and scream - I told him I was not happy about it, I do not allow stickers on walls/doors and furniture and that I would be removing it - and that is exactly what I did. I also told him that he cannot expect me to converse and compromise with him when he is unwilling to do exactly that - if he can make unilateral decisions about our home so can I surely?

I also told him that IF he had discussed it with me he would know about my sticker rule - he cannot surely expect me to allow his kid who hates me to do things that my own kids are not allowed to do? I will not kowtow to her just to keep her happy at my own kids expense. IF he had discussed it with me I would have said the pen was ok INSIDE the door or on the wardrobe doors, and if she wanted the stickers to get a piece of plywood and paint it up pretty to hang in her room that she could decorate however she liked. There were all sorts of compromises to be had. But he chose not to.

So, things were icy for a few days.

She left her bag open and I saw the piles of junk food, am ignoring them. If her mum wants her to be a fat, sick pig so be it, if her dad is too scared of upsetting his widdle baby girl to deal with her gorging out - so be it. Not my kid not my problem, and least now she is removing her rubbish and crap.

They got here Friday night. By Monday BM requested to have them back for most of the day to spend some time with her as she "missed them" - just when things were thawing and SD was starting to act like a human being again, playing with the other kids etc. So, back to icy again.

But we stayed up and played games that night, so she thawed a bit quicker. Then last night. At 10.40pm BM decides to text OH and tell him to get SD to call her. SD and DD were playing upstairs quite happily at this point, then she has to go phone her mother, and we are right back to icy again.

Fuck I hate them all at this point. So today OH has been hanging out upstairs with the steps, they refuse to come down even to eat. Fuck the lot of them

DD8 has tonsillitis. It is cold and wet and miserable and we have no money. FUN holiday times.

Only two more days to get through and the little nightmares will be back with BM til Weds. Then next Sunday, Then the following two weekends in full. And whenever she can wrangle it.

And OH sees NO problems. BM can call at 10.40 on HIS phone and that's just fine, she just wanted to talk to her daughter....

Fuck them all again.