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WE don't do our fair share....?

LRP75's picture

I've been gone a long time, mainly because things have been going really, really well over here. DH is doing his job as a father and consequently, *surprise, surprise,* the skids pulled their shit together. The long drawn out battles have ceased, the fighting between skids is under control, the nasty disrespectful crap behavior is gone... Things are finally... "normal." Not perfect. But "normal." We were even able to have all three of the kids together with no insane squabbling or fighting.

Back in January or February I learned that BM and her H are getting a divorced. This is bad news for us. We all know that when the BM's are happy and satisfied elsewhere, that they leave us the hell alone. So I fully anticipate that the drama on that end will start back up. Mainly in the form of CS. CS is due to be recalculated next year (05/2014) so now we can fully expect a full-on frontal attack for more money. :sick:

THEN she started the whole "turning the kids against her ex" game with the skids. They come over here talking crap about the man who she professed to be so f*cking amazing and that the kids just "adored" him. She's telling the skids that he's not giving her any money, that he is being mean to her, blah, blah, blah. It's all the same old sick shit she told the kids about us. That woman has some serious issues. How disgusting to pull kids into fighting your battles.

Anywho... all of that is still none of our business. So we were just sitting over here counting our lucky stars that the drama is staying over there.

And then BM's new soon-to-be-ex called my H last night. :?

First he sends my H a text to see if he is available to talk. He was.

Oh man. The top of my head feels like it is going to explode right off. Get this...

That dumb mother f*cker had the audacity to call us/my H last night to ASK US TO GIVE BM MORE MONEY!!!!! :jawdrop:

WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAT??

Yeah.

SUPPOSEDLY, that dumb, fat, lazy, welfare leech of a whore is about to be evicted for the home she lives in, all of the utilities are on the verge of being shut off, she's about to lose her vehicle to repossession, and she can't put food on the table.

WHAAAAAAAT??

Ok, wait. WHAAAAAAAAAT??

So she's renting her aunts house and her AUNT is going to evict her?? WHAAAAAT? The last we heard the rent was only $300.00. Huh?

And she gets f*cking $700.00 per month in FOOD STAMPS! WHY can't she put food on the table? WHAAAAAAT?

So this dumb mother f*cker calls us/my H last night to LECTURE US/MY H about how important it is for us/my H to give her MORE MONEY, because, you know, it's our/my H's job to make sure the kids are being properly cared for and they are suffering, yada, yada, yada. If she loses her van then the kids won't have transportation. The kids will be living in a home with no utilities and can't eat.

So, OF COURSE, the natural solution to that problem is NOT for BM to get off of her fat, lazy ass to GO GET A JOB, but instead to try to get MORE money from people who are ALREADY supporting her lazy ass?? You have GOT to be kidding me.

:sick:

He then proceeds to tell us/my H that he is paying MORE for the one kid he has with her than we/my H is paying for his two. Um, we pay $1k per month. Yes, $1k for those two kids. And he is paying MORE than that for ONE kid? Who's the dumb ass?

But let's do some math here. Her monthly TAX FREE income FOR DOING NOTHING is:

$1,000.00 child support from us for the twins
$1,100.00 (?) child support from her soon-to-be-ex for his one kid
$ 600.00 from the state for the oldest daughter because her dad is in jail
$ 700.00 in food stamps

That's $3,500.00 f*cking PER MONTH!!!!! WHAAAAAAT?????

And she's about to be evicted, utilities are being shut off, and her van is going to be repossessed? WHAAAAAT???

And the solution to the problem is for us to give her MORE money???

This dude MUST be on crack.

He then proceeds to tell us that "despite everything she has done to him" he is still giving her cash on the side, in fact had just given her $850 to help out with everything while she was waiting for CS to be dispersed from the state. (So take the above amount and ADD $850 to it... and that STILL isn't enough???) He's telling us that, although he has an apartment, he is sleeping in a friends semi-truck in some ghetto so that he doesn't have to spend money on gas to drive back and forth for work (long distance). Ok, cool dude. That's your gig - not our f*cking concern. And that he is making ALLLLLLLLL of these sacrifices and giving her ALLLLLLLL of this money to help her AND US in order to take care of the twins....

You know, because he, "LOVES THEM SO MUCH" and so he wants to provide for them and take care of them. So it's time that WE stepped up to the plate and started doing our fair share."

Yup. Those words actually came out of his mouth.

O.M.G.

So we aren't doing our FAIR SHARE??

W. T. F.

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LRP75's picture

"If she got more she would just spend more and still be in debt and coming back for more. I wouldn't give a dime more, the lazy assed bitch."

Agreed. There is no way in hell she is getting more cash from us. My in-laws actually buy all of the twins all of their clothes and shoes AND just paid for each of them to join a sports team. So... uh, where is the freaking CS going?

"As far as all her ex has said to you I smell BS. He's coming to you to try and guilt you into paying more to her and to give her extra cash 'off the record' so that he doesn't have to pay more."

Perhaps. It's not adding up to me either. I am not entirely convinced that anything he said is true. It *might* be, but I don't know. Contrary to him, I wasn't born just yesterday and I don't swallow every tale I am told. ESPECIALLY when it comes to BM. She's a notorious and habitual liar. I want to see proof.

"That means you and your DH are in a better position to care for them."

Yes.

"Perhaps you should apply to the courts for custody."

No. There is some very long history with this one. Too much to get into here. Suffice it for me to say that my H did that once before, spent $12k in legal fees to try to get custody of his kids when she was neglecting them and doing drugs before - and the judge put the kids BACK into her care based upon his belief that, "what is a Home? A Home is where a Mother is." The judge in that county is so notoriously pro-mother than we would NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER (in a million years) win that battle. We might as well take our money and flush it down the toilet for all of the good it would do to even try to get custody of those kids.

"Do you have any documentation or records of what her ex has said?"

No. We could do some research to determine how much, if any of it, is true.

"Would you want to have custody?"

No. Things are better now than they ever have been, but I don't want custody of them. At this point, I am not convinced that what he told us is true. So I don't feel scared for the kids just yet.

"He's coming to you to try and guilt you into paying more to her and to give her extra cash 'off the record' so that he doesn't have to pay more."

Good point. This *might* be what's happening. Hmmm....

doll faced sm's picture

This, for sure.

And, damn! How much Kool-Aid did BM give this man. He's obviously suffering long term brain damage.

LRP75's picture

"And, damn! How much Kool-Aid did BM give this man. He's obviously suffering long term brain damage."

EXACTLY!!!! Holy crap I can't believe he still buys into her bullshit!!! Un-f*cking-real!!!

LRP75's picture

Drugs are a possibility... for her at least. We are going to have to look into it.

As for turning her in... to whom? All of that CS is already going through the very same office that gave her the food stamps. They already know.

APPARENTLY it just really behooves a person to be a lazy, fat bitch who never takes care of her own problems while the rest of us chumps get up to go to work everyday.

I wanted to scream at the shit head, "It's time for us to DO MORE? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? She gets $1k per month out of this home AND $700 per month in our tax money! At what f*cking point is enough, enough?"

*sigh*

LRP75's picture

OMG for real, right????????

Son of a...

I am in the wrong business.

bearcub25's picture

If she is evicted and or has utilities shut off, call CPS and they will remove the kids from the home. Let her tell a judge where her money is going.

LRP75's picture

Yeah, this is probably the path that we will have to take. There is no way we can get custody, but the kids might be able to come stay here temporarily while she gets her shit together.

LRP75's picture

I wish.

Whereas the guy wouldn't have made it through the first sentence had I been the one he was talking to, my H let him talk himself out and then just said, "Thanks for letting me know."

I mean, the guy is dumber than a stump - I don't think that there is ANYTHING that ANYONE could say to him that could penetrate his ignorance.

MotherTrucker's picture

Sounds to me that you guys should request her to be drug tested. That is a hell of a lot of money coming in every month to not have food on the table. What do the kids say? Are they telling you that they don't have food to eat at BM's? If so maybe it is a good idea to try file for custody. This is just crazy to me...

Anon2009's picture

So what was DHs response?

Hopefully he told the guy to tell bm that if she truly cannot provide for the kids, she should hand them over to him (DH).

misSTEP's picture

Drugs. Has to be massive amounts of drugs going on over there. Both for BM blowing that much every month AND for her stbEX calling YOU guys to demand YOU pay HER MORE!!

LRP75's picture

"I bet there is social security disability coming in too."

Oh yeah, I forgot to mention that. Yeah, she gets disability. She has a "bad back."

Yeah, me too. The difference is that I still get up to go to work everyday - even when it takes me an hour in the morning to be able to walk.

LRP75's picture

"And if her own aunt is going to kick her and the kids to the crib, she's burning some serious bridges."

Exactly. There is a long history there, but the aunt knows that she is full of crap.

It might be time to call the aunt to figure out what is going on.