We had a huge yelling blow-out with the BM a few weeks ago. After listening to her verbally bash and lie to my husband for the last 10 years... I had enough and spoke up. Needless to say it did not go well. We have caught the SS12 watching porn on the internet, telling nasty jokes to his 4 yr old sister and other things. When we ask him where he learned those things he says my older brother (15) showed me(from his BM). We brought these things up to the BM and well you can all guess what was said. He would never, that does not, and so on. She is on her second divorce, which occurred earlier this year, and since then things have been getting worse. She has a new BF moved in with her. I feel SS is lost and confused about everything that is going on. His mom keeps bringing men in and out of his life. She has told him to lie to her parents about the men. And when it suites her she brings the second ex in and out. Then SS12 comes to our house. My husband and I don't fight, don't yell, no drama at our house. It is the same every time. It has to be very weird for him.... one house crazy and one house totally calm.

I just don't know what to say to him since the blow-up. I am sure he heard part of it, at least the yelling part. He has tried to start things with my husbands mom. I just don't trust him and yet am so very worried about him. What kind of man is the BM raising? Is there anything I can do or say to let him know how I feel? I feel like I should say something to him... just not sure what:( Is is even worth my breath? We are just entering the teenage years and I am sure this is all about to get my worse.

Just if you were wondering the BM and I have never gotten along. I have tried many times to reach out and am always given the I really hate you smile that so many of us have come to know. The only time we had a conversation longer than 1 or 2 sentences was when she was telling me how horrible my husband was.