I am 31 yrs old and my H and I have been married for 3yrs. Prior to getting married we dated for 6 yrs. When we met he already had a 3yr old son, he was the sweetest thing. His BM was not in the picture so it made life for us extremely easy. There were times when she would call (she lived out of state) and talk to SS and you could tell he missed her but he got attached to me and I felt as if I was his mother. Everything was fine until my H and I got married and had our first baby. My SS did not want to spend any time with me and always wanted to be at my inlaws house. Thats when the problems got even worse. My husbands family told my SS that he did not have to listen to me therefor causing conflicts between him and I, about 7 months ago he told my H family that I told him his mother did not care for him. I was floored!!! I could not believe that he could possibly say such a thing, my H didnt make it any better by saying he believed him (so that SS wouldnt think his dad was not on his side)I let it go but I cried and have struggled with him since. 2 months ago his BM passed away and I cried for him and told him I was there for him if he needed anything and that I loved him. My SS went and told his maternal grandma that I had told him "now that your mother is dead I am your mother" My husband had the nerve to even ask me if it was true!!! I have become and outcast along with my children and my marriage is suffering! My H and I argue all the time and my SS is the cuse of all our trbls now I need help and advice please!!!!