I a urging DH to talk to BM about some sort of counseling for the kid. The last time we brought up something like this with her, of course she was in denial of any sort of problem. For one..If it is in the best interest of him I don't thing the issue should be as big as she makes it seem to be, and for two.. I think that if we wait any longer his behavioral issues will only worsen. He is intellectually at a 3-4 year old level, although he is 6 soon to be 7. He cannot use the bathroom on his own, shower on his own, put a shirt on on his own. He talks baby talk. He can memorize a movie word for word but cannot remember how to wipe his own rear end! I feel bad for him. Fortunately and unfortunately he is not my child. Of course mother knows best right?? She doesn't care about her son. Basic needs are met but he is so behind in everything else. I hate to compare but my kids are very articulate and have high I.Q. scores (yes they have been tested). I come from a family of educators and they all have voiced their concern about my stepson to us as well. BM refuses to have him tested or even acknowledge that there is a problem.