Knew it was going to happen
My cat died a few weeks ago. At first i was all for getting a new kitty but as the options were getting real, I wasn't too sure. We, DH and I, were supposed to pick one out. His friend was only available Sunday which is the dreaded visitation day. I knew that if we did it that day SD was going to pick it out.
Its not like she doesn't have her own cat at her house with her mom. I thought I made it clear with DH that I wanted to pick the cat out. I found my first cat and rescued him and we had a really tight bond before these interlopers came in our life.
I know I sound petty but I just wasn't 100 percent ready.
I had no input and I haven't even been able to hold the cat since we got it.
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No way in hell I would have
:jawdrop: No way in hell I would have let that happen.
:O
Go back and pick one for
Go back and pick one for yourself. (Or let the cat pick you - as often happens!) I have found that two cats aren't really much more work than one.
We already have another cat.
We already have another cat. So this would be our second.
As for some of the other comments, Sue, I got a new account but that doesn't mean your comments don't get deleted automatically. Other comments, some of y'all have a lot of time to do these mental gymnastics
I just do not get it, why did
:jawdrop: I just do not get it, why did you not simply say, NO I do not want this cat, I want that cat...
some one told me when picking a cat, you sit down and the cat that picks you will be your cat, if it was the same cat SD had an eye on so what, if it was a different cat good, but you have the right to say, I want this one and that's that...
Seriously I would not go and pick out anything if Aergia is with us...
I really thought that talking
I really thought that talking to DH about the cat would solve it. He has been really good about being considerate.
The cat decision was made in a different room. The lady had a bunch of cats in her closet that were just born and she wanted to show those to us. That was the initial plan, to pick out a baby cat and come back in a few weeks once they were weaned. This lady found a cat on the highway the previous night which is the one they picked out while I was looking at the kittens. By the time I had picked a cat, they were already paying the lady's daughter for the cat they could take the same day.
I was P.O. about that too. The friend said the lady had a daughter that was trying to sell them when the mom wanted to give them away free. So here is DH throwing money around. I doubt the lady will see the money.
Hon... you still should've
Hon... you still should've picked you cat, and when SD left for BM's simply say...
SD please take your cat with you.... if they said it was not her cat, then you could've said bu you picked it, thus it's your cat, now either take it with or take it to a rescue centre, I don't want it...
I agree that you need to
I agree that you need to practice the art of saying... No. People will continue to run over you, until you learn to stop allowing it.
Since SD picked out a pet for herself, I sure hope the BM gave permission, since little kitty would be heading home with SD. That's how you do it. SD's cat belongs at SD's house. Plain and simple. It isn't rocket science, lol. When you're 100% ready for a new kitty, pick a day when SD isn't there, and go get your new fur ball.
I was merely giving OP an
I was merely giving OP an option, since she is bothered by how the choosing took place. Personally, I don't blame her for being upset (although I agree that she needs to learn how to speak up.) Since the cat is clearly now, SD's cat, OP should explain to DH that kitty goes home with it's new owner. If BM isn't in agreement, yes, it is then up to DH to take his balls out of his vagina and fix this issue. An issue that HE created. That's all I'm saying. BTW, it isn't just DH's home, so this should have been a 'household' decision. Not just what sweetie-pie SD wants. Just sayin'.