Mini inlaw holiday vent
Well, DH and I moved 1000 miles away from his "lovely" sisters...one wouldn't even ever come to my house after we were married...just found out they are all going to SIL1 (head witch) BF's house for Thanksgiving...(note: first real BF in at least 10 years)
It probably shouldn't bother me but it just brings back those feelings of rejection...SIL1 was "our friend" until we got married and the old jealous hag had a meltdown that extended to everyone in the family after she trashed us, telling everyone that DH was going down the tubes...Yeah right...Me: 2 degrees, great career, hot for my age, respected community member, raised two wonderful Ds...When I stuck up for myself and DH...she blasted me...now it's all supposedly smoothed over and they are civil the 2 times a year we see them...
My anger surprised me today...
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Well, DH swears part of the
Well, DH swears part of the jealousy is due to my, ahem, substantial endowments, while SIL1 is a pancake...I don't think that way but I guess some do...anyway I'm over 50 and look 35...I've been told!
It's jealousy. I'm dealing
It's jealousy. I'm dealing with the same thing. I was burned at the stake this weeekend by BILs/SILs. At least now we (DH) don't have to spend the holidays, or any time soon with any of them.
One of the BILs was so desperate this weekend to try and dig up skeletons from my closet, he had the balls to tell his brother (my DH) that he (my DH) was having *relations with me* while I was still married. This is a man (my DH who is well into his 40's BTW, and to boot, my FDH KNEW I was still married and seperated...so no *new* news there). BIL spewed out of his filty insecure mouth the exact date of my divorce (6 mo after meeting my FDH)...even though I was clearly moved out and seperated at the time. He was basically trying to accuse my DH of having *relations* with a *married woman* when we first started dating.
Now, that is some serious DESPERATE digging because that information is not free on-line stuff. He had to pay for it. And if that's all he's got against me (that I was having sex with his brother and in the process of a divorce during that time) he's a fucking ignorant idiot.
Be happy you don't have to sit in their toxic environment during, what is a relaxing happy time with good family.
Wow, having relations with
Wow, having relations with you. Like that lie isn't obvious! I'd say your BIL is on the border of mental illness if not firmly over the edge...
Reminds me of SIL's koo-koo friend. DH was fixing something at her house for pay and she was trying to be seductive. When he said I have a GF (before our wedding) and it was me (she knew me), she flipped out and said that I had slept with her ex-husband. She has two. And I have never been anywhere near either of them. Met them both a total of five times?! What a freak. As if he'd care anyway. "Oh, you don't like my GF? Well I guess I'll break up with her and go out with you." Freak.
I swear, bad behavior and mental illness/personality disorders are INCREASING. Either that or people don't feel compelled to hide them anymore.
DH's brother has serious
DH's brother has serious issues with his own family. He left a decent stable job at a large aerospace company here in the state (which included benefits for his whole family) to go to work as a real estate agent....which obviously the housing market has been tanking for the past 3+years. So, essentially, he left his own children without medical or dental care, and didn't have a decent job to support his family for the past few years. His kids probably have rotten teeth by now.
Anyway, from what I've become to understand here, ususally with in-laws and when they become really agressive against the SM, it's because they don't want to feel the guilt for the way they've destroyed and mismanaged their own lives and families, so it's much easier to point the finger at the "evil" SM as being disfunctional and wrong.
Thank GOD I have a normal loving family and a dear brother and nieces I am very close to. DH's side of the family is doing nothing more than hopping on the BM's narcissistic band wagon and are all being *played* by the adult SD brats who want to play victim just like their entitled-mommy.