Two weeks ago SS had an incident with BM, and BM, SO, and I all went to the police station together. SO had not been speaking to BM or SS at all, but he backed BM up on this issue with SS, and so did I.

A couple nights later - the day BM got summoned to juvenile court with SS - SS actually came over here, and he and SO have been speaking on the phone since then a few minutes almost daily. SO has also been speaking with BM trying to support her with SS and figure out how to handle the hearing.

Well, as of this past Friday, all of that is over. SO was talking to SS and told SS that we had bought a week long pay-per-view event in their sport. He told SS that SS could come watch Friday night. We were going out to the store and were going to pick up SS on the way back, in like an hour. But in only a few minutes, BM called SO and started nagging and then yelling at him.

Her new thing is that SO and I should take SS on the weekends, so that BM can have "her time."

Hmmmm. Ok. This is the same woman who NEVER, NOT ONCE had her son overnight for the 5+ years he was custodial with me. And now he's behaving like a punk, and he ran out of here *twice* to avoid being responsible and respectful. He's not welcome to be a part of the household again until a number of things change. We were still working up to cordial interaction. And she suggests I take care of this child all weekend, after working all week - on MY DIME?!?! (SO is currently unemployed.)

SO has been telling her - she's started this conversation several times with him - that she chose to take SS not just once, but twice, and that she should have considered the consequences. That SO may visit with SS during the day but we're not taking him for the weekend - just like she *never* took him for the weekend when he was with us. And BTW he couldn't stay by himself at that point (too young), and could now if he could be trusted - but since she's the one encouraging him to rebel against what we teach him, she can deal with the fact that he can't be trusted to stay alone. After all, her leaving him home alone is how he got picked up at 4AM by the cops in the first place.

SO told her she got what she wanted, now deal with it. He took SS back once already and he's not doing it again.

So after BM and SO fought on Friday, SO called SS and told him it probably wouldn't be a good idea for SO to pick him up right then. He told SS to call Saturday if he wanted to come over and see the finals.

SS never called.

I know SO is really hurt. This is what he and SS used to do together, and he was reaching out to SS by offering to watch it together. SO even came to me and asked how I felt about it before going to SS - amazing of SO, I think. I told him last time that he made me kind of uncomfortable offering for SS to come over without mentioning it to me, given the drama and history that's gone on. SO got a little annoyed - but he actually did ask me how I would feel about it this time before asking SS.

I told him I was ok with it - but I didn't want to "play mommy" and act like things were back to the way they used to be, when the three of us were really tight. So to me, that means I'm not cooking or serving meals or snacks. We can get Chinese or pizza, or have cereal for breakfasst instead of pancakes or eggs. SO understood why it would bother me to be "momming", and didn't have an issue with it. So we were fine. And SO invited SS.

Then BM picked a fight with SO, and SS never called.

I watched all the matches with SO yesterday, so he'd be distracted a little more from SS not being there. And SO was fine. He doesn't talk about being upset or hurt. But I know he was.

So the united front with BM is history. SO and SS may not be speaking again. And I guess we're not putting the monitoring software on the computer.

You just never know what's coming next, right?

L