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Tired of my husbands ex texting ME because she doesnt want to deal with him!!

livinlife's picture

Submitted by livinlife on Thu, 11/18/2010 - 12:11pm

My husbands ex has been sending me any and all info and questions to me because they have not been getting along. Im tired of dealing with her. My job is to care for my Step daughter and I do, but I refuse to get in the middle of any arguments between my husband and the ex. She always threatens to block his number then immediately starts texting my phone. She drives me crazy. She is bi polar and always causes problems with little things when it could be much more simple. I hate that I let it get to me. GRRRRR!!! She will start a texting war and cause problems even over us picking up my Step daughter 15 mins early when the pick up time was worked out 3 days prior and we give her a text when we are on our way. Why cause problems over this? Is it really worth the time and energy. There has been BS things we have had to deal with for the 4 years we have been together. It is obviously NEVER going to change and I need to find a way to always have a plan B and to not let it get to me. OR plan on having it not go "as planned" But again, I feel like she is always winning and we are having to give into her weirdness by letting her get away with it. Or should we just say forget it and not waste our energy and just deal???? So annoying!!!

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Submitted by SillyGilly on Thu, 11/18/2010 - 12:18pm

BM likes to text me sometimes. Sometimes I respond... but when she starts to be a snatch I ignore them. She stops. If you don't acknowledge them eventually she will give up and move on to a different way to be acknowledged.

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Submitted by livinlife on Thu, 11/18/2010 - 12:21pm

Thanks for input.... i guess i'm too nice sometimes. I respond most times but recently after DH text war with her I decided I had enough. I guess before I would respond to try to keep the peace but I am not getting in the middle of the BS. Like I said, I feel my job is to take care of my SD when she is with us and not deal with her.

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Submitted by etyler on Thu, 11/18/2010 - 1:07pm

Yeah. TOTALLY not your job. I useto do this, but I figure why does she get to avoid someone she doesn't like and I have to deal with one?!

At the end of the day, it is THEIR child and they need to learn to get along. Maybe you need to have a talk with your DH and he can ask your advice or opinion before he responds to her but stop stressing yourself out over someone else.

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Thu, 11/18/2010 - 1:19pm

BM knows I hate her and would never dare text me... I think she'd be scared of what she'd get for a response. Of course DH hates her too, but she knows he has no choice when it comes to SS issues so he has to deal with her.