Today. I told the dude exactly what I told his daughter last night - to wrap up the common area takeover after 10pm and if she woke up early she was welcome to ride to the sports competition with me. He thanked me for offering then explained she intended to do a play date this afternoon. While I would have gleefully done what I said I was going to do, I was silently relieved that I didn't have to 'cash out on my offer'. 

In Denial Disneyland Dad called while I was out this am saying "we" will be out a few hours this aftenoon. I was thinking 'oh great hes gonna take just his daughter out then force me to be responsible for his son without my advanced consultation/agreement. And who is "we"?' But I didn't probe because in the past he would get easily offended anytime I (imo rightfully) asked too many questions about his custody or anything regarding his kids behavior/schedules while they're in this house. 

Well come to discover he took BOTH of his kids out with him for a play date. THANK HEAVENS!!! Tired of them being bumps on logs laying aroud this house all d@mn day/night just about EVERY weekend. 

I tried not to laugh as he

• ranted about how he wished their mother would do these playdates (guess it's too much work/money)
• struggled to set boundaries with daughter by telling her he wasnt going on a spending spree (she got a pissy attitude then he backed down)

If he had planned better, instead of his frequent last minute skid-demanded outings, I could have showed him how to save money/time on his playdates. But noooo f*ck me I've only have several years more of experience than he has. Oh well, not my problem to worry about since it wont impact me anymore. 

While they're gone I was able to cook a healthy meal, pack a few pantry items, rant on steptalk, and work on the moving checklist. With his new schedule and my new schedule, I am not able to discreetly pack as much as I can. My fault I should have started way sooner. Hope the movers are too pissed they gotta help pack the day off lol. But at least more people will make it go faster. 

Also I am realizing that I foolishly provided like 90% of the home goods so I've been tring to pack stuff while not making it so bare he notices and starts asking too many questions. One time he rode in my car when I had several clear totes in my backseat and starting asking too many questions like 'what's all this?' and all I could think was 'look, turn your mf - ing head around, look straight ahead, and stop asking so many d@mn questions' but I lied and said it was junk donations for goodwill. 

I have had a couple of weeks to not think about this so much but today as I procured totes it started hitting me again that my reality is going to look a lot different (I have faith it will be for the better) in a very short period of time. 

I decided to go with holiday totes vs packing boxes just in case.