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Meeting Ex Wife After 4 Years (HELP)

lilichell's picture

My husband and I havve been together for 4 years now and we live in california his ex wife(Rocio) and children (Misty 12 and Cris 10)live in Utah but every year in the summer they fly over and stay for about 2 months. Rocio and I have the worst relationship ever. Weve had alot of arguments through text messeges where she called me a pig and i called her a whore and Its just bad all around. The kids are great we have a great relationship and we always have an awesome time when they are here. Every year they fly in and fly out but this year she decided to come to California as a vacation and is picking them up. We have never met each other in person she has a boyfriend and they are both picking them up this saturday and im not scared but i am nervous and im not sure what i should do. My husband was not able to take the day off so that means she will come pick up the kids to my apartment and i am not sure how I should handle the situation. Should I go out there and introduce my self or should i just let them walk out with their baggage. Can some one please give me some advice.

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Disneyfan's picture

The kids are old enough to walk out of the building and to the car on their own. There's no need at all for you and the mom to see each other.

lilichell's picture

Thats exactly what i was thinking but my co workers are telling me that she will think that i am scared to meet her or insecure and that is not the case.

lilichell's picture

You guys are right i am not going to go out there i really want to avoid all that conflict.

lilichell's picture

Seriosly some times i ask my self what did I got my self in too. But I truly love the man and his kids are wonderfull. But it is something else and there is so much to deal with.

Tuff Noogies's picture

please edit your blog to remove names. i dont suggest you risk leaving them in there.

and i concur - they will see when she pulls up, they can walk themselves out before she ever gets up to your door. and make sure you lock the door behind them, then go use the bathroom or something so you're not available if anyone trailed by mommy dearest tries to get back in.

lilichell's picture

She always mentions me to my husband and blames everything on me and one way or the other she always finds a way to include me in their conversation and one day my husband asked for her to not bring me up and she decided to text me and thats how it started. Another time she texted me saying that i shouldnt prevent him from seeing his children when that is totally not the case i am extremely supportive of him seeing his children and i really genuinely love and care for the kids.

ESMOD's picture

I don't know what your husband does but I would tell him that you are NOT going to meet with her and that he needs to either.

1. take kids to work she picks them up there.

2. He tells her she can't get them until after work and she picks them up with him home.

No way should you have any face to face with a woman that you have had a horrible text war with.

Are there no other relatives in the area that could be a neutral pickup spot?

notasm3's picture

A POS BM should just be ignored (the whole "ignore the whore" mantra).

She's shown her true colors. No reason to engage with her on any level.