Ugh
Ugh. SD20 will be visiting in a few weeks and I am NOT loooking forward to it! Please please PRAY for me that she doesn't stay too long!! I DO NOT want to see her. I know it's just going to be DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA.
"I have to help pay bills living there!
"My mom is terrible!"
NO moving in here! DH knows I WONT LIVE WITH HER! What if her mom doesn't want her and she has nowhere to stay?? I HATE this. I don't care if she is working or going to college. I DON'T want her in my house.
She is an ADULT and she HAS to find somewhere else to go!!!! How can I make sure she doesn't convince my husband to let her move in?????
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Tell your husband that if she
Tell your husband that if she moves in, you move out. That should do the trick.
Just make sure he knows that
Just make sure he knows that you are not prepared to have her move in, not now, not ever. That's what I have done, with my two 20 something SDs. You have a right of veto to other adults moving into your home. Your DH does not get to impose this on you, unilaterally. Do you have reason to think she will want to move in? Or is this just a fear?
A fear because our house is
A fear because our house is the better house and she KNOWS it. Her father believes every LIE that comes out of her mouth so she gets away with murder!! and he WONT make her pay bills or contribute.
Tell him if SD moves in, you
Tell him if SD moves in, you move out. And then follow through if he makes the wrong choice.
I'd also be tempted, when she complains about having to pay bills there, to say "Of course you do, you're not a child anymore and you need to contribute."
Ohhhh that reminds me honey..
Ohhhh that reminds me honey.. I'm going to need you to give us some money to cover the groceries and utilities while you visit. Adults get no free rides..lol
I don't blame you for not
I don't blame you for not wanting her to live there. It's sad that a visit from a skid can cause worry about "what may happen ". Maybe the day prior or day of her arrival pull your DH aside and remind him that the two of you need to be on the same page about her permanently staying there if she brings up the subject. And tell him it's a NO.