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Submitted by Learning to Ste... on Fri, 05/15/2015 - 9:32am

So, I took DSD to the dentist for two more caps today and it did not go well. She screamed and writhed through the whole thing.

The dentist felt confident that she wasn't in any pain, she was numb, but that it was an emotional reaction. She didn't react that way at all the first two times she had work done and the dentist felt she was basically saying "I have done this twice now and I'm done."

I texted BM and said I just spent an hour holding your daughters hand while she screamed and writhes through two silver caps. I have done this twice. Now it's your turn. Her next appointment is XXX at XXXX."

I haven't gotten a response yet. Perhaps her phone is shut off again.

I haven no doubt BM won't get off her lazy ass to deal with the consequences of her shitty parenting but it felt good to say it anyway.

I need a drink.

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Submitted by Learning to Ste... on Fri, 05/15/2015 - 1:37pm

If by pedodontist you mean a pediatric dentist then that is who we are seeing now. She doesn't have her own office yet, she spends time at offices in different towns right now but said today she would have her own office really soon and then we could discuss sedative options.

I did ask about that but at the office she works out of in our town there isn't the necessary emergency equipment there if the sedative caused a problem.

It really came out of left field. She was great the first two appointments, never made a peep.

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Submitted by Cover1W on Fri, 05/15/2015 - 1:53pm

I had a real big fear of the dentist develop when I was a kid. Had to have a lot of work done starting in grades 4/5. Too many teeth for my mouth. It built up. First couple of visits ok, after some difficult visits, I was on sedatives for my next appointments for about a year. Took me until well into my 20s to be really comfortable with dentists.

If she's not taking care of her teeth, then I'd be all over DH about it.
I'm just waiting for this to happen with SD11. Who doesn't use toothpaste.

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Submitted by Learning to Ste... on Fri, 05/15/2015 - 2:54pm

I specifically asked about giving her a sedative for the next appointment and the dentist said she didn't want to go down that road yet because the types of sedatives they use can depress breathing and the office she works at doesn't have the necessary emergency equipment should a problem arise.

She has shitty teeth because she was given a bottle until she was 3 years old with juice and probably pop and god knows what all in it. She was put to bed with a bottle. Her mother bribed her to eat her food with the promise of suckers. Brushing was not a priority.

To date SD5 has had 12 cavities filled, 1 abscessed tooth, 2 kiddie nerve treatments, and 5 silver caps. She has another two caps scheduled in a few months.

DH is really good at keeping up on her brushing and such now but the damage was already done and while she is only at BM's every other weekend (or even less as has been the case the last few months) and a few weeks in the summer and around Christmas we know for a fact BM still gives her pop and junk food. I'm not sure how much real damage can be done in that limited amount of time but given the state of her teeth I imagine it isn't going to help.