Good point momof3vt.
Difficult to prove the mother has had any influence (in our case i mean) although i don't doubt she has had.
May be more to do with their father suddenly becoming distracted with a new woman (me!)
I think a lot of our problems stem from their jealousy of me in the first instance. They saw me as a threat and were determined to split us up right at the start. I have worked out that they controlled both their parents and were allowed to continue to call the shots even after they divorced. It began to change when he met me and i started to open his eyes to what they were doing.His daughters say i changed him and that he was never the same after he met me and i cannot argue with that accusation. I changed him from a blind doormat into a a man who was intolerant of disrespect and needless drama.
I have no relationship with them at all (my choice) but i worry about the future for him and his daughters. He says he will only continue to make an effort with them if they behave like normal adults but i don't want heartache for him, he's a good man and he's given them everything including his time (bit too much maybe)