This place has been heaven sent. I know just by putting my posts out there, I feel better. I admit- I am sometimes embaressed by the things that happen in this house, at the hands of my skids and the reactions of my DH. I can't share it with my "real world" friends. This gives me a place to vent and share, and most often, I get good feedback and advice. Words of encouragement... I am stronger now than when I became active on ST in July. I have learned about disengagement, and I have finally cut ties with psycho BM. If I get a negative comment back, I might quietly fume, but I let it roll off...

The Wife had the best piece of advice about a week ago. If something happens and you aren't sure how you want to react, wait 20 minutes. If it's still a big deal, do something. If not, it's already gone and over.

The choices we have made in our lives haven't been easy on us ALL of the time. But every life has ups and downs. Ours- as steps- just don't always happen to be controlled by us. Skids, bios, exes- there are so many outside "actors" in our lives that we can only handle what we can control.

I've been away from the computer for a few days, but caught many "good-bye" posts, which inspired me to write. I'm not going anywhere. It's what keeps me from seeing the therapist on a WEEKLY basis. LOL

So thank you again. Thanks to those of you that love your skids; thanks to those of you that love your DHs enough to try to love his skids; thanks to those of you who are also bio-moms who share your kids with us...

I am honored to wear the Step Mom crown. I work hard. I deserve it.