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Submitted by LaMareOssa on Mon, 07/22/2013 - 2:06pm

Seriously? Did she really say that?! Dumbfounded. I can't believe that!

A couple of days ago SD11 and DD7 were playing and SD gets up and just walks away to go do something else. Now, let me just say this: DH and I never 'Make' SD play with DD. It's nice when she does because DD loves to play with SD, but we have never forced it and I get that an 11 yr old does not want to do the same things as a 7 yr old. Anyway... SD gets up and just walks away to do something else without a word. DD comes to find SD to see what happened. DD asks SD what happened and why she walked away in the middle of their game. SD just says "Don't know. Oh well." DD gets irritated and says "SD, you always do this. You always leave me in the middle of the game. I don't like that and I think it's rude." DD walks up to DH and I and she is annoyed. DH and I talk to DD7 and explain to her about the age difference and doing different things etc.. I tell DD that I understand how she feels and that just walking away in the middle of a game is rude, but lets try to just move on and do our own thing. DH agreed.

DH finds SD11 pouting. DH is talking to SD and she has the nerve to tell DH that " DD7 is very rude by calling her out on the things she does and she doesn't like it when DD is blunt and confronts her when she does something that DD7 doesn't like" WTF? DH explains to SD that it is a GOOD thing that DD calls people out on their BS. DH tells SD that what she did was very rude and that DD did nothing wrong by telling SD that what she did was rude. DD had every right to call SD out on something that DD felt was wrong.

Even after talking it out, SD still can not seem to understand that what DD is NOT rude. SD hates that DD is blunt and will tell you if she doesn't like something and SD HATES it. SD HATES being called out on her rudeness and feels like she is being attacked. Oh well. SD needs to get over it. SD needs to learn that people WILL call you out on your rudeness, as they rightfully should. We do not beat around the bush, if you're rude or disrespectful, we tell you and address it. This is the way most of the world is. SD needs to learn that 'most' people will not tolerate being treated badly.

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Mon, 07/22/2013 - 4:12pm

I think the issue is that SD just got up and walked away without a word.....leaving g did wondering if they were still playing, if she was just getting up for the bathroom or a drink and coming back etc. Then when did went to her for clarification if they were still playing together SD was rude and snippy instead of just answering her that she didn't want to play anymore.

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Submitted by LaMareOssa on Mon, 07/22/2013 - 4:34pm

^^This. SD got up and just walked away without a word. This happens often and DD is tired of it. So, DD called SD out on being rude and when DD asked what the deal was, SD got rude.

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Submitted by Onefootout on Mon, 07/22/2013 - 4:17pm

They did sort it out on their own. At least your DD did, good for her for handling it herself. It's SD that was the tattle tale. And your DD7 is already demonstrating she is more mature than SD11. What a baby SD is.

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Submitted by LaMareOssa on Mon, 07/22/2013 - 5:04pm

Thank you Just Wow!

It would be great if she learns this now, but I don't see it happening Sad Her counselor has even said that her thought process is "not normal" and she[SD] honestly believes in her heart that she is the "victim" in everything and that she honestly believes she is entitled to anything and everything and that she shouldn't have to work for anything. At 11 years old this is happening!