Yesterday afternoon SD11, DS4, and DD7 were playing house or something like that and I heard SD tell DD that she couldn't do something or another because SD had already "claimed" their bedroom as hers. DS had his room and I heard DD ask SD if she could play in the room during their game and SD tells her no. Then SD goes into DS's room and DD comes in there and I hear SD11 say that DD couldn't be in there either because it was already taken. I see that DD's feelings are hurt and I pull her to the side and tell her that she doesn't have to play the game and she can do something else. DD and I are talking and SD comes over and slowly lures DD away back to the game. Which is fine by me..Glad they worked it out. A few minutes later I hear SD11 getting kinda loud saying "DD be quiet. Don't say that. SHHHHHH! I don't wanna hear that. SHHHHHH!"

I walk into the bedroom because I can hear them from the other room. I ask them whats going on and if theres a problem. SD11 just stares at the floor as usual when I ask what the problem is. DD7 tells me that "SD11 says I can't play in either of the bedrooms and I told her that I feel like she doesn't like me and SD said I can't say that"

So, I find my opportunity to point out something that I've noticed, but couldn't find the right time/place to say it. I look at SD and I said "Well, you know what? It DOES seem like you don't like [DD7] I've noticed this for a long time now. You treat DD different than DS and you try to exclude her quite often. DD has every right to tell you how she feels and she wasn't doing anything wrong by doing so. You talk and complain about everyone treating you differently, but you're doing the same thing here with DD and I'm not going to put up with favoritism and meanness in this house."

SD11's face turned bright red. She was LIVID with me for pointing out something she had done. A few moments later, DH pulls into the drive. I tell him what happened and that SD is really upset. He said " Oh well. The truth usually hurts. She needs to know that what she is doing is not okay."

SD11 was outside, laying on our trampoline, pouting for a good 20 minutes. She came over and sat next to DH on the patio and pouted. She tried and tried to get his attention and make him feel sorry for her. It didn't work.

I know all this seems really petty, but when dealing with SD11..Anything as small as this or even telling her to be nice is a world changing event around here. And this pouting she does as been known to go on for 2-3, even 4 days. Counselor says she has trouble controlling emotions and is a sign of Borderline Personality Disorder that may develop as she gets older. Yay. :O