Why would I want a jackass when I have a stallion in my stable????
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Love me or hate me, I'm still gonna shine!!!

Well, i don't think i would waste my time being mean to xDH. Hell i divorced him and moved on years ago. Then again - he has not been really active in my daughter's life until now. She is 14 and he recently started paying child support and is not getting involved in her life. I don't get in the middle of any of it. Hell he has her cell phone number and email. I don't have to be involved in the day to day.

All i ever wanted was for him to get involved in his kids life....... without trying to have any drama what so ever.

Hell life is too short to be stuck trying to make it hell for someone else - My life, moving forward in my life, and being happy in my life is WAY TOO IMPORTANT than to be stuck looking to make trouble for someone I no longer wanted to be with.

********She doesn't have to love me or even like me - it doesn't change a dang thing..... So get over it and move on BM!************

I don't make his life hell. In fact, his car just got stolen the other night and I gave him money for a rental car. If he is reliable and I can depend on him to be there when I need someone to take care of choochoo in the event of an emergency (like when my grandfather had the stroke) then I'm willing to do whatever I can to help him out. We try to meet each other halfway. I still think he is an asshole loser but I try to keep that opinion to myself just to keep the peace.

I don't still burn the torch for him...I've said in other threads...I am so repulsed by him that I wouldn't touch him not even with someone else's v*g. Harsh but true.

"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."

..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."

"If they sold clues at Walmart,I'd be first in line to get one for DH" ~the lovely Jbee~

I am pretty indifferent towards my ex. We are cordial but not friendly. I do not engage him. In fact, I am much friendlier to his fiance than to him! I have full custody and he sees the kids every other weekend. A typical visitation exchange goes like this:

Wed evening text from him verifying his vistation - with time for drop off and pick up at meeting our 1/2 way meeting place. I text back to agree.

Friday night at meeting place, I give him the bags and kiss my kids, tell them to be good for Daddy and g/f. He says "see you Sunday at 4"

Sunday at 4 we meet and puts bags in my vehicle or give to my DH. Ex usually says "everything cool?" I say "yes, see you in few weeks".

Now if fiance is doing the drop off/pick up we usually make small talk - ie "were they good for you?" "did I send everything they needed?" etc. She usually has some little quirp that they said or did that was fun or humorous.

My kids are 9 and 11. If something goes on in between visitation that their father needs to know about, I have them call him. Then if he needs further info he will ask to talk to me. I stay out of his life the best I can...I have my own life

Now my husband's ex (BM) that is a whole other story...

"God grant me the serenity accept the things I cannot change; the strength to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference."

"Are you happy with your new lives or do you still shine a torch for your ex?"

Honestly, who would admit to this if they DID? LOL.

~*~When you kiss ass, your breath smells like sh*t~*~

I couldn't care less about my ex except for his lack of co-parenting. His wife's insecurities have her believing I am obsessed with him which has mad HER do all sorts of things to harass me (she has actually been convicted of this in court), frustrate me and try to ruin my life.

My thought is, been there done that- would never ever go back. I now have a great hubby, a very happy life that is moving forward every day.

The only glitch is both of them trying to exclude me from kiddo's life, and I believe he only does it to shut her up because we were very cordial before she came into the picture.

"The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it and change, So that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, fear or anger, but in wisdom, understanding, and love." -Jennifer Edwards

How about both? When EH was with satan, yes I made his life a living hell. There were some pretty severe circumstances where I was seriously afraid for the safety of perfectson around this *woman* and I'm using that term loosely. But once she was out of my life peace was restored in the world.

I love my EH to pieces. I go out of my way to keep him in the loop of perfectson's life. He quite often doesn't hold up to his end of being a parent, but I accept that is just how he is, and I love him for all of his good qualities instead.

My ex and I are good friends, I am also friends with his girlfriend. I want my children to see that we can work together if both sides respect each other. I can see the difference that it has made for my kids. The kids don't railroad us, we work together and respect each others household differences. I guess in that aspect I am truly blessed. But on the other side bm in my case is a trouble maker from hell. She is going to totally ruin my marriage, and at this point I think husband is too passive to stop her. I can see the toll it has taken on sk's but at this point I don't care (sorry to say) I am so beat down and tired of what she (bm) is doing to our household, while husband stands by.

...the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it. - The Lion King