BM demanded we give the kids to her on thanksgiving just… because
I havn't posted in a long time because we only get the boys every other weekend so I honestly don't think about it much anymore.
This year we have them for Thanksgiving break. Basically the paper says whenever they are released for break till they have to go back to school. They had a whole week off so we picked them up Friday and technically supposed to drop them off Sunday but their mom asked if she could have them Friday so she doesn't miss her weekend
Basically we would have dropped them off Sunday and pick them up Friday anyway.
We blur the visitation kinda often. If family is in town or we just want them extra time or she has something going on we usually dont have issues... until..
Yesterday at about 9pm my husbands phone was going off. He has me answer her messages because he doesn't understand the way she talks (we think she has some kind of mental disorder but also have considered drugs a few times)
she said we have to drop them off Thursday (thanksgiving) at 3pm instead because they should be with "their real family on thanksgiving"
really she just doesn't want to go to her boyfriends house and not have them to show off and take pictures.
I told my husband and he just looked at me with that "are you serious" look
he just replied saying that we can drop them off earlier on Friday but we have the whole day planned on thanksgiving trying to completely ignore the "real family" comment
she sent an extreamly long message saying that she was trying to be cordial and she "allowed" us to have them for the week and she was only asking for "part" of the holiday...
3 pm on thanksgiving is not part of the holiday... that's the main part...
she continued that we are no longer allowed to pick them up early on fridays and we have to stick to the court visitation... which is funny because we only pick them up early because she has to work and said she can't afford daycare so I organized with my work to let me off early on fridays so I could get them.
my husband laughed and just replied with a thumbs up emoji and said we will drop them off at 6 on Friday.
this is where she got the older kid (m12) involved.
She basically told him to come in and tell his dad that he doesn't want to be with us on Thanksgiving because he wants to be with his "step family" and that it would be a good thanksgiving since it's just me and him in a small apartment.
I stayed out of it and his dad asked if that's what he wanted to do and the kid just shrugged.
half of me is tempted to just drop him off... but I'll never say that out loud.