I hate to see parents abandon there children but she sounds like she is not all upstairs. I am pretty sure I would not let her in your home for visits anymore. I would tell hubby to go visit her at a nearby restaurant or something. She sounds Phsyco to me.. Even at 8. Her mom sounds like she is not all there either..

Try not to worry about it too much. I'm sure your daughter, when asked, will tell the truth. .... yes, we were fighting..... mom tried to pull us apart.... no,mom didn't choke her..... she's lying.... But the police will probably come around and question you, and/or your daughter. They almost "have" to because of all horrible child abuse. Be patient with them - understand they are only doing their job, speak to them without displaying anger or profanity, or waving your arms, which would indicate anger. But yes, I agree that you should definately talk to hubby your concerns. Make a suggestion (genltly) that he might should exercise visitation in a Motel 6, or somewhere else. Your home, is not just your home, but the home of your children. And now, your home and your livelihood (and your criminal record) is on the line. She has now put you in the position of having to chose yourself and your own children. This whole thing will be over before you know it- and the good news is - the next time she makes a police report, the police will be way less likely to take her seriously. Good luck!

I do not take my sd anywhere alone and this is exactly why. I'm too afraid she will make up horrible lies about me. She does tell her mom lies already but at least her dad's there to back me up. My favorite one is that I make her sleep on the couch. I bought brand new bunkbeds for her and my daughter to use. Guess thats the thanks I get for buying her a new bed.

We had the kids one weekend towards the end of November and it was our turn to have them for Christmas. When DH called BM to make arrangements for the pick-up, she refused to let them come. When asked why, she said that the girls said that I had hit one of the two younger children during the last visit. Well, we have five kids and the youngest was just a few months old and I was still nursing, so needless to say, I never let my husband go ANYWHERE except to the john! Two with ADHD and other issues, one with abandonment problems, our rambunctious son and a new baby... no way I was getting left alone with all of them for longer than a potty break. He knew that it was a bunch of hogwash, but we could never convince her of that. We questioned the girls about it later and they didn't say anything, but they did exchange an odd look between them. To this day, I have no idea if their mom made it up so that she wouldn't have to give the kids up for Christmas or if the kids made it up so that they could go to BM's mother's house for the holidays, instead. All I know is that we didn't find out we weren't getting the kids until the day before Christmas Eve and we had already traveled halfway to get them. Totally ruined our Christmas. She threatened to report us to CPS, which we were hoping for, because we were trying to get them to our house, anyway, so we could finalize my husband's adoption of my son. I think to protect yourself, you have to insist on never being alone with this child and possibly not allowing her back into your home. I would call an attorney ASAP and find out what your options are. You may be able to get her on filing a false police report and defamation.

~ Anne ~

Ladies and gentlemen, take my advice: Pull down your pants and slide on the ice! -M*A*S*H (Sidney Freedman to the OR staff on dealing with stress)

She is 11 and I have been in her life since she was 4. She used to come over every other weekend and on our designated holidays. Lately she has not been coming over and she tells her mom its because I am mean to her. I have been nothing but nice to her and I have gone out of my way throughout the years only to be told off and lied about in return. In the past couple years she has really gotten bad. She told her mom (who hates my guts) that I am mean to her and I am jealous of her because she looks like her mother (gimme a f**cking break!).My hubby was always on my side and denied her allegations to her mom but I always felt that he questioned what went on when he wasnt around. One day she did it right in front of him (she told her mom that I was talking about her (her mom) and of course she went off about how she was going to kick my ass. My husband told Bm that it was a lie and she is just starting trouble. BM then said why are you taking her side over your own daughters and he said because now that he saw it with his own eyes he knows for a fact that she has been making up things for years and that she was no longer able to come to our house because she is just stirring up trouble. He said when she gets past her hatred for me and learns to respect me as his wife then she should just stay with her mom. Of course that brought on a whole new set of trouble. BM then proceeded to tell SD that he was choosing me over her and that he must love me more. Blah, Blah, Blah. I am so proud of him for sticking up for me. I am so tired of going out of my way for that little girl and getting nothing back. Our lives and visits with the my SS are even better now without the bratty little SD.