Have to talked to your husband about this? It does sound very strange.

WOW! Sounds kind of Freudian!! I’ve never heard of this before other than the famed “Oedipus Complex” but I don’t have any direct experience with this sort of thing or know anyone who has…I’m sure given the fact that you have some issues, he is in some sort of counseling and I would DEFINITELY let his therapist know of this behavior. Also, I would be very careful especially since I know that one of the ladies on this site has been formally accused of abusing (physical I believe) their SD…NOTHING about his behavior seems normal to me! I would definitely have the therapist look for signs of sexual abuse!

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I agree that he needs some sort of counseling. I really don't want to come off badly but if he has this same behavior with other girls, you and your husband could get in a lot of trouble. I have also heard some of the tendencies of sexual predators begin very early in life. This may not be the case at all but it is definitely worth seeking professional help to try and stop the behavior. And you are right to question if he himself has been molested.

My stepson's mom let him take showers with her when he was between the ages of 3 and 4. One time we took him to the store and he was pointing out breasts on dolls and calling them bubbles. We also caught him playing with the top part of a bikini. Then his preschool teacher told us that he flashed a little girl.
We told biomom that she had to stop taking showers with him and she finally did.
However, we also got stepson in therapy because we just didn't know what else he was seeing with biomom and her boyfriend.
It is scary to think what they could be seeing.

Dawn

Is he 7? If so I have a 7 year old and he is not at all facinated with boobs or anything.. He is a normal kid.. I am not saying your step son is abnormal but that is so weird..
My SS is 21 and gets mad because all his friends say all the time she is hott.. Your step mom is hott. He hates that.. I personally would never take a second look but when he told me that I said to myself hey you still got it.. BUt said oh they are crazy.. You know..
But your situation is diff.. I know.. I don't know I think counseling would be good.. Did anything ever happen to him?

I did sit there with my mouth open as suggested. I haven't heard of anything like that in particular in a blended family situation. I would say its possible he is a.) curious, and b.) perhaps there is some jealousy with regard to his dad. I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he has been abused.. but there is something there worth discussing with a professional perhaps. I will add that my 11 year old SD at times mimics things with her dad that she sees he and I do. For instance, if we are all sitting on the couch and he reaches over and rubs my shoulders, she'll reach over and do that to him. That creeps me out. I would say that is about the worst though and I always chalk it up to jealousy and wanting the attention.

I would talk seriously to your SD's dad about this. Good luck!

I would also say that there is some level of experimentation in children. I"m not an expert by any means. But I see lots of little kids (yes, younger than 7.. so it doesn't necessarily help)do things in public that make you raise your eyebrows. In church last summer a little girl was talking to my son across the aisle (both about age 5) and she stood up in the aisle and told my son "I have on red shiny panties" and pulled up dress and bent over. I about died inside for the girl's poor mother. I guess I should have thought why the little girl would do something like that.. but my own son who is now 6 got in trouble last week for pulling up a little girl's skirt on the playground. So.. needless to say, I think sometimes things like this happen. But, with your 7 year old son.. I think there is something more Freudian, some jealousy, early puberty. I'm not sure, but definately don't let it go.

I wouldn't jump to the conclusion of abuse right off the bat. A lot of little kids are curious around their own mothers, babysitters, sisters, etc. It can come on at any age, 7 is by no means too young. I would seek advice from a child counselor if you are nervous or don't understand what's going on, but I wouldn't necessarily send the kid to therapy. I'm afraid that doing that would make him feel embarrassed or like he is in trouble. As long as you subtly teach him that affections toward you are wrong without hurting his feelings or embarrassing him, things should be fine. Once he gets old enough to really understand the role you are in within his family he will probably feel very differently about you.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

I read your bio and being that you just obtained custody of your SS b/c of his mom’s drug addiction, coupled with his behavior towards you…I would say that professional counseling is a MUST! Living with a drug addict mother, there is NO TELLING the types of things that he may have been exposed to!

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You just don't know what went on in front of or to your ss through bm's drug addiction. When people are on drugs, they have no regard for others, and typically surround their children with scary people.

I have a ss, and when he was 4, always referred to me as his gf. I always chalked it up to he was trying to be like his dad. He use to comment on how pretty I was, and how I looked like his mom. Then about 9ish, he did make a comment how he wanted to "see" my boobs. Although he only said that once, and I thought it was weird at that time. I know for my situation, my ss has been exposed to seriously questionable people/events due to biomom, but I do not think he has been molested. I do think that sometimes kids do weird things.

I personally think you should consult a therapist, do not wait for dh to make the phone call, make it yourself, as guys have a strong tendency to drag feet on important things...and some guys might feel like this is normal part of being a kid.

I think he needs to told/lectured about touching other people's private parts and that it is wrong. Maybe he has never been disciplined about this when he was w/his mother. So just sit him down and tell him, maybe have a doll as a model. Tell him it is wrong and that he can go to jail. Where does he get these ideas? Ask him how he got that idea?

-happy mom